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Mark Entrekin: Hello, everyone, and wake you. Welcome to another episode of our achieving unity success formula. I'm so glad you're here. You look at the screen, you can see our achieving unity guide. This is the guy that talks about some of the issues that we have today with anger.
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Mark Entrekin: hate, and prejudice, and some of that is all caused by frustration and disconnection.
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Mark Entrekin: Please look and get a copy of it. You get a copy with a QR. Code on the bottom left.
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Mark Entrekin: or you get to my blog with the QR. Code in the bottom. Right. My name is Mark Intriken, and I am again so thrilled that you are here. This guide is one of the ways that we reach to people
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Mark Entrekin: to help us all understand that anger, hate, prejudice are have no value.
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Mark Entrekin: But instead, we're turning to the power of encouraging, inspiring, and helping and including others.
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Mark Entrekin: That's how we make the world a better place, and we can do it. We're going to find out more later with our guest tonight
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Mark Entrekin: about how he took a situation that wasn't positive and turned it that way, and we can all do that by working together, achieving unity.
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Mark Entrekin: achieving unity, success formula. Thank you so much for being here again, because we are on session number 38. We started last October, and we are going strong. We're already booked through the end of the year. So please put this on your calendar
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Mark Entrekin: every Wednesday, one Pm. Pacific time, 4 pm. Eastern time. Love to see you here. Love to have your feedback and please. You're welcome to ask questions through the chat during the meeting. Thank you.
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Mark Entrekin: Reality, focus dynamics, success, focus solution. As you see our logo here, it truly represents the heart of what we do.
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Mark Entrekin: Notice how focused sits right in the center.
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Mark Entrekin: That's because everything that we explore from reality focused dynamics to success, focused solutions, resolves, revolves around clear, intentional direction. In fact, that idea of focus is so central to us, it's even built right into our phone number (303) 362-8733, which spells 303 focused on your keypad, on your telephone.
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Mark Entrekin: We believe that by truly focusing on what matters we can create meaningful change and achieve lasting unity to go to our site home. You can use the QR code on the left
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Mark Entrekin: or to contact me, and I would love to talk with you. Let's chat. Use the QR code on the right. We want to be focused with you.
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Mark Entrekin: We have proven compassionate strategies that turn conflict into lasting harmony at home.
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Mark Entrekin: at work and in every relationship that matters.
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Mark Entrekin: Sometimes we're frustrated by the tension or the arguments. Are you someone you know.
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Mark Entrekin: our 7 step roadmap gives you the tools to move from conflict to collaboration, communication quickly and confidently.
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Mark Entrekin: Are you straight? Are you craving stronger trust, stronger connection.
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Mark Entrekin: discover communication, tactics that build respect, respect for each other, repair relationships
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Mark Entrekin: personally or professionally, people that you're working with on a day to day basis. People that report to you people that you report to unify your teams and family alike.
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Mark Entrekin: We can transform conflict into connection together, achieving unity.
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Mark Entrekin: Unity inspires us, inspires us in our homes.
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Mark Entrekin: it shapes society and it transforms workplaces.
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Mark Entrekin: We help you turn frustration into understanding, because I know sometimes we want to say what the frustration
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Mark Entrekin: find value in your actions, instead of reacting in anger, that frustration, that disconnection that comes about.
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Mark Entrekin: We know that anger holds no value. Anger, a NGER. Is nothing more than actions, not gaining effective results.
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Mark Entrekin: There's no value in that.
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Mark Entrekin: Life happens in every relationship, again, from personal relationships to professional relationships, from parenting time to partnerships
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Mark Entrekin: in the bedroom and the boardroom, and every room in between.
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Mark Entrekin: We show you how to embrace those challenges
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Mark Entrekin: and encourage a more inspired and inclusive future. That is our Ei. And if you go out to that blog QR code we showed earlier, you'll see more of my articles that talk about ei encouraging, inspiring, and including others, to help us all build a better world.
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Mark Entrekin: one vision, one goal achieving unity in every area of life.
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Mark Entrekin: Our call to action is. Let's ditch the drama and get stuff done. We will show you how to turn your life
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Mark Entrekin: from what may seem like a dumpster fire to a well-oiled machine, and Michael will talk a lot about that today.
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Mark Entrekin: We will make sure we understand that just because there's a dumpster fire today.
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Mark Entrekin: it can turn into a well oiled machine tomorrow. Achieving unity is the path
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Mark Entrekin: to stronger relationships, inspired leadership and lasting change with others as well as ourselves.
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Mark Entrekin: coaching, consulting courses and keynote speeches contact us. Today. You reach us at realityfocusdynamics.com or Ri033-62-8733, which is 303 focused. Let's get focused together.
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Mark Entrekin: Our next course starts in August. It comes up on August 7, th the 1st Thursday in August, living life fully through present moment awareness.
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Mark Entrekin: Where are we today? Achieving unity doesn't just solve problems. It builds those bridges I'm talking about to possibility.
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Mark Entrekin: encourage every person's growth by replacing criticism with compassion.
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Mark Entrekin: inspire change through hope, not pressure.
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Mark Entrekin: Every step forward matters include every voice, so no one feels unseen, unheard, or unworthy
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Mark Entrekin: when we replace disconnection with empathy
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Mark Entrekin: and frustration with understanding, we create a space for trust or collaboration and for shared success
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Mark Entrekin: together, achieving unity is how we thrive
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Mark Entrekin: our next podcast, guest coming up again. This is a weekly live podcast
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Mark Entrekin: next week we start with Sean Yezner, a widowed parent, and remember all 4 sessions this month for the month of June are about fathers.
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Mark Entrekin: dads.
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Mark Entrekin: parenting some of the conflicts that some of the fathers and dads have come across, and how to better our parenting.
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Mark Entrekin: We'll have Michael, which we'll talk to in a few minutes. Next week is Sean Jesner, the widowed parent, come back and find out more about being a parent, but yet being widowed in the relationship.
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Mark Entrekin: That's on June 11, th Keith Schomacher.
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Mark Entrekin: father, friendly building the father's relationship. Dad's relationship in our schools, he's done a great job working with that
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Mark Entrekin: Alan Stevens who's an international profiling and communication specialist, will come. Help us with our communication in relationships.
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Mark Entrekin: And then the following week, which is the week before Independence Day. Here in the United States. Lieutenant Colonel Dave Grossman will come and talk to us about the price of freedom.
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Mark Entrekin: But yeah.
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Mark Entrekin: the price that we have paid. People give their lives. And so much the freedoms that we enjoy today, yet honoring that cost of the independence that we have today a great set of
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Mark Entrekin: podcast, coming up.
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Mark Entrekin: But please put us on your calendar. Come back and see us each week.
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Mark Entrekin: But today I'm overly excited about our guest
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Mark Entrekin: today. Michael is going to talk about guiding fathers to conquer addiction and save their family.
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Mark Entrekin: Michael once said, I want to stop destroying destroying my life and my family, but I just don't.
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Mark Entrekin: No how.
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Mark Entrekin: This haunting question remained unanswered for Michael until it was too late.
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Mark Entrekin: yet he still transformed his darkest hours into a mission of hope and change for other families.
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Mark Entrekin: Michael didn't just recover.
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Mark Entrekin: He transformed his experiences into a source of hope
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Mark Entrekin: and strength for those who will struggle to find those answers.
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Mark Entrekin: Today we'll hear a powerful conversation where Michael shares his journey from losing everything, lost everything, including cherished relationships.
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Mark Entrekin: relationships with his family to rebuilding a meaningful life
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Mark Entrekin: His story is a Testament, a testament to the power
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Mark Entrekin: of positive transformation. Please help me. Welcome, Michael Olson. Michael, how are you today?
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Mykal Olson: I am great. How are you? Mark?
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Mark Entrekin: I'm doing wonderful, and I am so proud and so happy that you're here. This is a situation that
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Mark Entrekin: things like this happen to them, but they don't know what to do. Right? They they don't know where to turn. Where do they go?
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Mark Entrekin: And for you I want to find out more today about you and how
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Mark Entrekin: this all started. So if you don't mind, Michael, if you mind introducing yourself and
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Mark Entrekin: tell us a little bit about your story.
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Mykal Olson: Well, thank you, Mark, and I appreciate the offer to come and talk to you and your audience.
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Mykal Olson: I would say that my story started off.
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Mykal Olson: but not everything, was what had appeared on the surface.
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Mykal Olson: There was something happening underneath, and what happened is, I lost my way.
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Mykal Olson: and I turned to something that was
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Mykal Olson: destructive, a destructive habit to cope with the fact that things weren't going the way that I had hoped they would go.
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Mykal Olson: Things were not turning out the way that I wanted them to, and that destructive habit was addiction.
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Mykal Olson: There were more than just one, there was the gambling. There was the pornography, the sex, all that.
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Mykal Olson: And what happened is eventually
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Mykal Olson: I did something that I never dreamed was going to happen because of those addictions.
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Mykal Olson: and I ended up committing a crime because of all the losses that I had
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Mykal Olson: and wound up in prison, losing everything else that I had.
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Mykal Olson: And when I'm sitting in prison thinking I'm going to get out at 53 years old
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Mykal Olson: I had to say, what am I going to do with the rest of my life.
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Mykal Olson: and that was the point where all of this started.
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Mark Entrekin: That's amazing. And just as you're talking about that, Michael, I'm thinking, 53 years old. If we could live to be a hundred, you're still over half of your life gone right.
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Mykal Olson: Not only gone, but everything that I had done before. I felt like I had totally destroyed it.
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Mykal Olson: My reputation, the relationships that I had with everybody in my family and my friends was all gone.
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Mark Entrekin: What do you feel was what kind of helped you make that turn? What I mean? I I could be
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Mark Entrekin: being in jail is enough. I mean you're in there. You're
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Mark Entrekin: ordered around theoretically, from all that. You see that, and from the deputy sheriff that
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Mark Entrekin: they're over you all the time. I I can, only I can only imagine what that was like.
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Mykal Olson: To tell.
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Mark Entrekin: He's got turns.
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Mykal Olson: The the experience of being in prison is you're treated less than an animal.
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Mark Entrekin: Wow!
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Mykal Olson: Animals are treated better than the people that are in prison.
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Mykal Olson: But this this really isn't about that experience. This is about.
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Mykal Olson: how did I turn this around
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Mykal Olson: because I knew that I had to do something.
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Mykal Olson: And I looked at it and said.
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Mykal Olson: The only thing that I can really do to make up for the damage
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Mykal Olson: is to try and help other men. Other fathers not do what I did.
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Mykal Olson: I had to find a way to be able to reach out and inspire other men
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Mykal Olson: And that was the beginning of what I decided I was going to be doing.
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Mark Entrekin: Oh, Michael, I look up to you. That has been
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Mark Entrekin: from what I see from the people that I've talked to now again, I've been
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Mark Entrekin: a past president, father secret rights in Denver, Colorado, as a Colorado Coordinator for Children's Rights Council. I've been very strong in working with parents, and the best parent is both parents.
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Mark Entrekin: and I put that together that I own that domain.
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Mark Entrekin: But the point I want to make here is, I've worked with a lot of people, a lot of people that have been where you've been.
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Mark Entrekin: and taken the journey on like you have.
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Mark Entrekin: How? How did? Where'd you get the string? How did you do that?
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Mykal Olson: Well, there's an interesting story as to how I got triggered to really begin the process.
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Mykal Olson: I was listening to a recorded message
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Mykal Olson: of somebody giving a motivational speech.
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Mykal Olson: And this is like to one of those athlete, driven kind of a things where they were all brim
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Mykal Olson: really go into town, telling people that they had to. They had to grind every day in order to improve themselves.
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Mykal Olson: and my reaction was very surprising.
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Mykal Olson: I became angry.
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Mykal Olson: because, coming from what I had done to my life and the dealing with addictions, I can say that we have ground ourselves into the ground to the point where there's nothing left.
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Mykal Olson: So we wonder what the heck we're going to be able to do. And so I became angry at this idea of grinding.
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Mykal Olson: because I know of grinding as a destructive process.
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Mykal Olson: It's the ripping away of materials until you've shaped it into something else.
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Mykal Olson: And a vision came to my mind at that point.
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Mykal Olson: maybe because of all the science and fiction and fantasy novels that I read as I was younger.
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Mykal Olson: But this idea of a medieval forge showed up in my mind.
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Mykal Olson: Because forging is a creative process, not a destructive process.
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Mykal Olson: It's the taking materials and shaping it into a work of art.
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Mykal Olson: and that's what came to my mind and told me.
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Mykal Olson: Wait all the addiction.
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Mykal Olson: All those things that I was doing were the destructive process.
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Mykal Olson: and I needed to change to actions that were a creative process.
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Mykal Olson: And so I began to set out. What can I do? That's different from the destructive actions to the creative actions, and that began the search for the answers to that question that I had. I want to stop destroying my life, but I don't know how.
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Mykal Olson: Now I'm going to go, find how to form my life
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Mykal Olson: and make it into something that I can be proud of, that can help people.
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Mykal Olson: and can maybe show the family that I hurt.
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Mykal Olson: that they could still find a way to be proud of me from that.
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Mark Entrekin: Congratulations, Michael, that I mean, that's like coming from the lowest point in your life.
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Mark Entrekin: and still being able to come forward
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Mark Entrekin: and grow. And as you talk about
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Mark Entrekin: that, forging that forge, as you're talking about of building something from what you have left to be
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Mark Entrekin: better to be something better and take it forward right.
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Mykal Olson: That's correct, and that's what I needed to do is to change me
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Mykal Olson: so that I do. The actions necessary to help other people
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Mykal Olson: is one of the things to understand about addiction.
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Mykal Olson: It's selfish, it's self-centered. We are doing the addictive actions, whether it's drugs, alcohol or some kind of behavior.
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Mykal Olson: We're doing those because
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Mykal Olson: we have pain that we can't deal with. And so we do these actions to be able to cope with those feelings. We don't want to deal with. It's an escape.
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Mykal Olson: So what do we have to do? Is we have to change those those things within us
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Mykal Olson: and gain control and gain power over those fears, those feelings of of hurt, and whatever we have to attack those particular things and overcome them in order to be able to move forward with creative
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Mykal Olson: When people go through recovery programs.
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Mykal Olson: we hear about it all the time they go get clean.
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Mykal Olson: Then they go right back to the activities.
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Mykal Olson: and they'll do it over and over again.
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Mykal Olson: What doesn't happen is the changing of the person within.
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Mykal Olson: so that they don't need the coping mechanisms going forward.
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Mark Entrekin: I love what you're saying right there again, that coping mechanism. You're not looking to please someone else, because that's what gets us in so
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Mark Entrekin: many problems, so many issues. We talk to someone else. We take their opinion.
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Mark Entrekin: our abilities. Sometimes when we know it's not right.
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Mark Entrekin: But we listen to someone else, and we make those mistakes.
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Mykal Olson: Here's 1 key. Here's 1 key for your audience.
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Mykal Olson: I have a coaching business, not because I'm going to fix someone.
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Mark Entrekin: They're the only ones that can do it.
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Mark Entrekin: I appreciate you so much, Michael, that that is so true, and to be able to reach out to our audience, and that more and more people grasp onto that
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Mark Entrekin: You had so much, and then you lost it all.
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Mark Entrekin: What gave you that strength? How did you see
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Mark Entrekin: that ability to go to the next step, and if you don't mind me asking in your coaching, how do you help others see that value as well.
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Mykal Olson: Well, that was part of the struggle is.
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Mykal Olson: And then, when I went to do the coaching, I said, Well, yeah, it worked for me. But how do I teach it?
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Mykal Olson: How do I speak to what the science was behind, what I did? That accomplished this goal?
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Mark Entrekin: And when you got into that nlp, I guess neuro is mind right.
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Mykal Olson: Correct.
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Mark Entrekin: The language of the mind, right.
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Mark Entrekin: You're helping us learn more about how we're talking to ourselves.
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Mykal Olson: The language of our mind is, we have 2 minds, we have the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.
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Mykal Olson: That's what the Nlp. Really begins to do is we reprogram those thoughts so that the triggers don't do the same things that they used to.
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Mark Entrekin: They've built that comfort level, haven't they?
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Mark Entrekin: And we have to learn the new ways to do things right.
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Mykal Olson: Correct.
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Mykal Olson: And I'm about to do something where I'm gonna not go with apple or windows. I'm going, Linux, because I want to get outside of those 2
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Mark Entrekin: there you go. I'm glad you brought that up, and I hope our audience can can go with this because Linux is much more technical. It's doesn't have all the things that Apple and Microsoft has. You're not gonna be able to go out and buy all these packages for Linux as you can others. But what Michael is going through, and, Michael, help me out here.
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Mark Entrekin: some of the external issues that you have is with apple, and especially with windows right.
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Mykal Olson: Yes, I'm doing this specifically, because I don't want the manipulation from those other corporations.
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Mark Entrekin: I'm so with you. Well, if you don't mind, I would like to step back just a second, because something you told us about earlier about that forging. You're taking things and you're forging it, and you're creating something. And you mentioned a work, mark.
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Mark Entrekin: Excuse me.
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Mark Entrekin: and that is so true. I'm with you 100%. And that's what you we can do. We could create value that way.
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Mark Entrekin: But I also have a nephew that does some forging.
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Mark Entrekin: that saves lives. It gives us a new view into our tomorrow right.
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Mykal Olson: Correct. And what you're what I'm talking about there is. There are 2 different parts of the process that I created. One is the art.
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Mykal Olson: besides that. So how do you? How do you look at your life.
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Mykal Olson: and you forge the entire part to be able to accomplish those things.
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Mykal Olson: What do I want to be able to do, to achieve.
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Mykal Olson: And I changed my character. I changed my identity of who I was, and then I was able to achieve the things that I wanted to.
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Mykal Olson: Before getting someplace that I could live.
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Mykal Olson: I chose to not go into Halfway House, because then I'm not associating with other
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Mark Entrekin: Beautiful congratulations. And that's not easy, is it?
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Mykal Olson: It's not easy, but it's necessary. And that was part of the process that I created is I need to do these steps.
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Mark Entrekin: I appreciate that, too, Michael, because I think all of us
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Mark Entrekin: But there's people like you, and hope I say this
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Mark Entrekin: that step you show that it can be done. It wasn't easy, I mean, I can hear that
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Mark Entrekin: it wasn't easy, but it's doable. If you have the strength that people like you have is.
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Mykal Olson: Doable, and you can create the strength.
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Mark Entrekin: Create the strength.
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Mark Entrekin: Go ahead. I'm sorry.
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Mykal Olson: That's what I want to make sure. The point is, you may not feel that you do, but you can create that strength within you to be able to achieve it. And that's 1 of the message I have is you can create
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Mark Entrekin: We can improve them, too. Right? It's not just a change.
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Mykal Olson: Yes, we have to create that vision for ourselves.
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Mark Entrekin: Envision ourselves. Well, tell me, what is the life, forge all about?
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Mykal Olson: The life forge is the the process of making this change.
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Mykal Olson: And then it also talks about the courses that I have created to go through the process.
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Mark Entrekin: That is great, and thank you again for all that you are doing now. As you were talking, I just went out there, and that's the lifeforge.com right. Your website is at the bottom of your picture earlier love that.
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Mark Entrekin: Tell us more about it, and I think if I see it correctly. You can get the book there on your website.
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Mykal Olson: Yeah, what you can do is go to the lifeforge.com forward, slash free book.
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Mark Entrekin: That is awesome. I'm just watching your looking through your pages. You're talking. I'm very impressed by what you put together on your website. You talk about the 9 step process
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Mark Entrekin: That is beautiful that helps up so much.
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Mark Entrekin: But I think one of the things that we're challenged by, and of course help me out here where all the people that I talk with
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Mark Entrekin: That's awesome, that you are doing something, and you're teaching others to do this also
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Mark Entrekin: But it's easy to think that it's not worth it.
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Mark Entrekin: But actually it is. And that's what I'm hearing that you teach in your course that yes, we all may stumble.
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Mark Entrekin: Let's build. And and having that person to lean on someone else's shoulder.
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Mark Entrekin: say, help me out here, help me stand a moment and help them re focus to be focused, success.
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Mykal Olson: I know you understand this because you're building community.
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Mykal Olson: What we need to do is we have a community of people that have gone through similar experiences
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Mark Entrekin: And that's some of the things that. And sometimes
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Mark Entrekin: we want to hear some things repetitively because we hear it. But we've also had experiences that. Yes, it works, but sometimes it doesn't.
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Mark Entrekin: But to be able to share these things repetitively, that it will work if we stick with it.
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Mark Entrekin: Turn to your brotherhood.
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Mark Entrekin: Turn to the successful people who have done this.
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Mark Entrekin: and are where you want to be.
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Mark Entrekin: and I think it goes back to. I heard it 1st from Jim Rohn. A lot of people talk about it.
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Mark Entrekin: What we want to do is assign those 2,
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Mark Entrekin: that are understanding these issues, repeating themselves on the better part of it.
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Mark Entrekin: and then maybe go to 7 or 8 or 10 people. But be around people that like it sounds like you did, Michael.
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Mykal Olson: Hmm.
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Mark Entrekin: Some better people who had lives like you wanted, and to not just follow.
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Mark Entrekin: but grow along that path right.
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Mykal Olson: Yeah, the long-term growth is to go beyond ourselves to helping other people.
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Mykal Olson: Because when we're helping other people, we reinforce in ourselves who we are
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Mykal Olson: because we have to change ourselves into something stronger, to be able to reach out and help other people.
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Mykal Olson: That's the long-term goal.
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Mark Entrekin: And sometimes we have to think about that. It's okay to be helped. Excuse me
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Mark Entrekin: that being in that brotherhood with that brotherhood or with the people that want to help us.
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Mark Entrekin: that can help us achieve in so many ways
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Mark Entrekin: that that's good. It's not something to be ashamed of, and too many times.
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Mark Entrekin: especially because of some of our cultures.
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Mark Entrekin: Some of the men think that that's not macho.
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Mark Entrekin: Anytime you can lean on someone else, anyone else, male or female, mother or father, man or woman.
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Mark Entrekin: Once you find that person to be in that brotherhood with. That's going to help you grow to that next step
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Mark Entrekin: that shares value.
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Mykal Olson: Hmm.
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Mark Entrekin: That you're able to lean on someone somebody to lean on and lean with.
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Mark Entrekin: And if you can find the people, though that are like you're thinking about in that blacksmith brotherhood
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Mark Entrekin: people that have been through some of the things that you've been through been down that path can talk one on one when not many people can do that. There's not many people they can talk with
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Mark Entrekin: to help them, but to be into that brotherhood, to be into that team, almost enterprise within itself.
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Mykal Olson: Yeah.
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Mark Entrekin: Yourself, grow.
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Mykal Olson: Bye, the free book that I offered.
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Mykal Olson: I didn't mention the title yet.
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Mykal Olson: Don't suffer alone from isolation to brotherhood, because it is critically important that we not suffer
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Mykal Olson: without being able to reach out and ask for help.
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Mark Entrekin: And that is so strong. And that's what we build on. And that's where we come in achieving unity
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Mark Entrekin: and that power, the power of harnessing, encouragement, inspiration.
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Mark Entrekin: and including others, and that, including others, can be your brotherhood.
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Mykal Olson: Yes.
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Mark Entrekin: And the ability for you to
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Mark Entrekin: congratulate each other, encourage each other. And I think, like you're already talking about inspiring each other
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Mark Entrekin: to take that next step forward.
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Mykal Olson: Exactly. And that's why I'm hoping that achieving unity
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Mykal Olson: and the Life Forge will have more than just this association.
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Mykal Olson: Let's continue to work with each other.
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Mark Entrekin: Let's continue to work together. Let's continue to build together.
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Mark Entrekin: cause that's what we need is you're talking about the forging.
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Mark Entrekin: Let's forge those strong parts. I say, forging, you're taking the metals. Maybe some metals that have been broken at some point. You're putting them into that fire, heating them up.
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Mark Entrekin: making them moldable to mold a new piece, a new part stronger than before.
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Mark Entrekin: Let's put them into the forge and come out with what we need for the strength for the foundation
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Mark Entrekin: to forge the parts that builds that structure that we need to grow forward.
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Mark Entrekin: And I want us to do that and help each other, going forward in what we do, and
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Mark Entrekin: and the meetings that we have, and continue to have
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Mark Entrekin: both of us in our coaching, we can work together.
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Mark Entrekin: because, as I come across people that have been through what you've been through.
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Mark Entrekin: it's not wrong for me to say. It doesn't put me down in any way, but I can't help them like you can.
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Mark Entrekin: You've been down that path.
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Mark Entrekin: Anyone that's forged together, pieces or parts of any art or any product
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Mark Entrekin: knows how to do it better.
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Mark Entrekin: and so for us to be able to share that information
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Mark Entrekin: and be able to turn people back and forth to each other
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Mark Entrekin: share that support in growing together is so good for them.
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Mykal Olson: Yeah, well, that's why we have so many different experiences, because other people need different experiences to help them.
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Mykal Olson: There's a lot of people out there that my experiences will not help them, but they may for you.
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Mykal Olson: or there are other coaches, or there are other people out there that have experiences.
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Mykal Olson: They can help them, so don't ever stop looking for help. You'll find somebody.
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Mark Entrekin: That is, that is so true, and something that you talk about. And I'm
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Mark Entrekin: what I've read. You talk about a little bit in your book, and that's the freedoms
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Mark Entrekin: that you give up with addiction.
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Mark Entrekin: We all love our freedom. We all have to be able to go places and do things.
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Mark Entrekin: But when you have that addiction, when you go to jail.
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Mark Entrekin: what happens to all those freedoms? Michael.
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Mykal Olson: You give them up.
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Mark Entrekin: Give them up!
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Mykal Olson: They aren't taken from you, you give them up.
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Mykal Olson: and if you understand that you are given away your freedom by engaging in addictive actions
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Mykal Olson: I'm telling you. Please take those freedoms back by taking control of those addictions through asking for help.
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Mykal Olson: seeking it from other people, especially groups of people with similar experiences. Please do that.
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Mark Entrekin: May I repeat, with just a part of what you just said?
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Mark Entrekin: Take those freedoms back like you said they're not gone.
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Mark Entrekin: There may be misplaced.
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Mark Entrekin: But it's up to us. Each person to reach out, grab, hold, and take those freedoms back.
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Mark Entrekin: What would you say to someone who might be listening right now, someone who may be listening to the recording.
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Mark Entrekin: She mentioned Youtube. This recording will be out on Youtube. So feel free to go out to Youtube to listen to this.
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Mark Entrekin: But just besides being on the fun side, getting back to a little bit serious.
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Mark Entrekin: what would you say to someone right now? That may be listening.
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Mark Entrekin: or somebody listen to the recording who feels alone, who feels unsure, what to do next.
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Mark Entrekin: What are some things that you tell them they can do.
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Mykal Olson: If you are asking yourself, or have ever asked yourself.
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Mykal Olson: I want to stop doing something, but I just don't know how
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Mykal Olson: there is an answer for you.
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Mykal Olson: You can find out how and there are people that really want to help you out there to answer those questions.
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Mykal Olson: Look at your life and find out what is the source of the problem.
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Mykal Olson: Your life might not be going just the way you want it.
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Mykal Olson: But what is it that's causing your life to go that way.
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Mykal Olson: And if you're looking at actions that you're taking, that you don't know why you're taking them.
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Mykal Olson: If there are actions that you're taking, that you don't know the reason why you're taking them, that you just automatically do them.
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Mykal Olson: Please consider going to get my book
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Mykal Olson: and identifying whether that might be addiction related.
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Mykal Olson: Decide to read that, and reach out and get some feedback.
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Mykal Olson: to see if you can overcome
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Mykal Olson: addictive tendencies, because what it may do is eventually without youth, ever
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Mykal Olson: thinking you're going to do this. It may wreck your life, and we need to help you before that happens. Please reach out
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Mykal Olson: and seek some help.
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Mark Entrekin: Those are such true word, Michael.
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Mark Entrekin: reach out to you. And again.
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Mark Entrekin: what's your website? One more time.
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Mykal Olson: Easy.
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Mykal Olson: 3 words put together the lifeforge.com.
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Mark Entrekin: thelifeorge.com
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Mark Entrekin: THEL, IFEF orge.com the life forge, and start forging your life in the way
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Mark Entrekin: it can be if you choose that.
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Mark Entrekin: So if someone wants to take that 1st step and doesn't know how
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Mark Entrekin: or your website which we talk about. That's 1 way.
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Mark Entrekin: What's another good place contraction to begin.
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Mykal Olson: Well, there are a lot of other places that offer help.
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Mykal Olson: but they may direct you to twelve-step program.
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Mykal Olson: Great! If that works for you.
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Mykal Olson: I'm all for it.
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Mykal Olson: It didn't work for me. I tried it.
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Mykal Olson: It did not work.
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Mykal Olson: I tried therapy.
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Mykal Olson: Great. If it works for you. Try it.
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Mykal Olson: It did not work for me.
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Mykal Olson: I found my own process. That's why I created it. I've listed my process in the book Life Forge.
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Mykal Olson: which is available on my website and can be ordered through Amazon.
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Mykal Olson: I'll just say right now, please reach out to me. Let's have a conversation.
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Mykal Olson: Maybe I can help you a little bit
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Mykal Olson: to direct you where you need to go, but we can't do that until you reach out.
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Mykal Olson: So please get a hold of me on the website.
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Mykal Olson: Look for the book.
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Mykal Olson: the website is the best way, probably because there you can get a link that you can email me or anything like that.
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Mykal Olson: But let's at least have a conversation.
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Mark Entrekin: You start, get started, and, like you said, take back
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Mark Entrekin: your independence, take back your freedom.
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Mark Entrekin: get to where you can do something that you want to do.
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Mark Entrekin: Give up
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Mark Entrekin: that if you want to give something up, give up the point that other people are running your life.
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Mark Entrekin: Other products, other drugs
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Mark Entrekin: are taking control of your life, that you do not have the freedom that we all
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Mark Entrekin: say we enjoy so much.
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Mark Entrekin: If you're addicted to anything it's controlling.
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Mark Entrekin: They're a liar, right? Michael.
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Mykal Olson: That is correct.
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Mykal Olson: And finally, I always wanted to be a superhero.
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Mykal Olson: I like Batman personally.
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Mykal Olson: Just understand, heroes are made, not born.
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Mykal Olson: Heroes are forged in the fires of trauma difficulty.
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Mykal Olson: They are not born so. Create yourself as a hero for your family.
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Mark Entrekin: And we can all be that way if we just put out the effort. If we just build on what we can learn that we need to do
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Mark Entrekin: and take it and grow it forward, but just quickly. We only have about 5 more minutes, Michael, but
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Mark Entrekin: I know with the things that I do my coaching.
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Mark Entrekin: my workshops, my courses, my speaking, sometimes just get hard, sometimes it's pretty tough.
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Mark Entrekin: What are some things that you do to keep going.
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Mykal Olson: I'm constantly seeking my own coaches.
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Mykal Olson: because I know that I need to continue to improve myself
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Mykal Olson: and to create better habits and such. So I work with coaches, too, so
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Mykal Olson: never look at reaching out to a coach as something negative.
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Mykal Olson: We must continue to forge ourselves, and we can only do that through someone who's experienced things that we need to know, but haven't experienced it yet.
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Mykal Olson: so that it's a constant process.
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Mykal Olson: You don't just forge yourself once you forge yourself constantly.
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Mykal Olson: and so I continue to reach out and look for examples of someone that you admire.
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Mykal Olson: Find out what is the characteristic of that person that you admire, that you want to take on.
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Mykal Olson: and then plan to forge that into your life as your characteristic.
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Mykal Olson: so that you can take on those kind of actions yourself.
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Mark Entrekin: That is awesome, Michael. Thank you so much, and that's giving people the strength
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Mark Entrekin: that they need, that we all need, that I've needed it before, too. I've run through a major divorce in my life. I was in a critical automobile accident. There's times that I've been in situations where
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Mark Entrekin: I was sliding back.
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Mark Entrekin: And it's the situations also.
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Mark Entrekin: Well, you know, if you want to have the freedoms
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Mark Entrekin: to do what you want to do.
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Mark Entrekin: there's things that you can do.
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Mark Entrekin: Michael. Thank you so much. I appreciate you being here.
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Mark Entrekin: Do you have any other programs? Just go to your website, find out what you're doing on a
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Mark Entrekin: day to day, week to week, month to month basis, and then how we can work together, going forward.
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Mykal Olson: Yeah, I've mentioned before that I have coming up here at the end of this month. I have an online course that lays the foundation for the process of creating the new. You.
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Mykal Olson: then I have additional courses after that to take you through the rest of the program.
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Mykal Olson: but I also will offer anybody who wants to work directly with me. We can do one-on-one coaching that will help get you there faster, with more individual attention.
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Mykal Olson: to be able to get that process done
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Mykal Olson: all that's available. You can get a hold of me on the website, and we'll get that set up whatever you need
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Mykal Olson: to turn you into a high powered hero for your family.
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Mykal Olson: I'm willing to support you and help you so that you can get there.
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Mark Entrekin: Thank you so much, Michael. That means so much. And that is what so many people need. You. Bringing that forward helps us all build. If you need anything more. Starting on the 12th of this month.
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Mark Entrekin: I'll start building with my weekly podcast I'm, sorry weekly, webinar online seminar.
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Mark Entrekin: At this same time on Thursdays, and we're going to be talking about
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Mark Entrekin: ending anger and hate and prejudice which are building through into in the encouragement, inspiration, and including others. So contact one of us contact [email protected]
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Mark Entrekin: go to realityfocused.com. You can call me at 3 0 3 focused. But let's all as Michael has done has shared with us today.
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Mark Entrekin: focused on our freedoms.
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Mark Entrekin: focused on. Even when you're addicted, you can grow to have that better life. It's there, it's ahead of you.
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Mark Entrekin: Take it, it's yours, Michael. Thank you again.
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Mark Entrekin: Appreciate it, and I know we'll be talking again very soon. Thank you.
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Mykal Olson: Very much, Mark. You will be talking soon.
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Mark Entrekin: We'll talk it soon. Everybody talk to us also, we want to hear from you. Thank you.
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Mark Entrekin: Cheers.
