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Hello, and welcome back to another inspiring episode of the Achieving Unity Success Formula.
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The weekly podcast where we turn chaos. Into connection, and purpose into action.
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I'm your host, Mark Intrican, and today is another episode. About the Achieving Unity Success formula.
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Making life better by encouraging. Inspiring and including others.
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Well, I'm very happy and excited to say today's guest. Is Brittany Stinson, a TEDx speaker.
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Operational strategist and co-founder. Of seating greatness.
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Where she helps leaders line up stages with stories. That spark real change, true change.
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From overcoming burnout, health struggles, and a rocky marriage. To tripling her business revenue in just 2 years.
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Brittany's journey is a masterclass. In living and working.
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From a place of trust. And alignment. Oh, she's also a mom of four.
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With another one on the way. Plus a 70-pound.
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Sheepadoodle. Named Magic. But first, before we engage into this insightful discussion.
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Let me quickly introduce my company. Reality-focused dynamics.
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Where this all began. Hope you can see the first screen there, because my first gift to you, and I hope you will read it, I hope you will download it.
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It's the Achieving Unity Guide, and it talks about. Any anger, ending hate.
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And ending prejudice. And I know those are powerful words, and there's probably some nicer ways to say them.
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Anger, we have frustration. Hate, we have disconnection.
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Prejudice? We have prejudgment? We can end all of that, and I would love for you to read this guide now, and… Give me feedback. You can get to the guide with the QR code on the bottom left.
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Have you ever heard anybody say, what the f-. Frustration? Okay, let me know that I said frustration.
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But we can find value in our actions. Instead of reacting in that anger.
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None. Anger is just actions. Not gaining effective results.
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A-n-g-e-r. Anger. They're just actions, not gaining effective results.
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Our upcoming podcast, please, again, every week. And remember. This month, all of August.
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We're talking about moms. Mothers and parenting.
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That has changed over the decades to be so much better now.
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Ever before, and our moms, our mothers are truly. Opening up in so many ways that.
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They're professionals. They're achieving so much.
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Come back. Let's talk more about that. We'll hear a lot today from Brittany.
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It's exciting. Next week, Jamie and Martin will be here. Silence the doubt, and start living life on your terms.
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Every week. Uh, but here is the highlight of the day. I'm so excited to talk with her more.
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We just met about a week ago. Very interesting, very exciting person, a very exciting… knowledge, understanding.
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A woman that's gone from burnout. To break through. Aligned leadership.
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In action. Brittany Stinson is a TEDx speaker. A strategist, and co-founder of Seeding.
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Greatness. Helping leaders align with purpose. And lead authentically from the inside.
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Out. After hitting her own burnout back in 2021. Brittany chose transformation to rebuild her life.
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Business and mindset. With integrity and trust.
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We talked a lot about that today. The result? Her company tripled in revenue.
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While her personal life flourished. Today, she empowers others through strategic coaching.
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Heartfelt storytelling, and leadership rooted in real-life resilience. Her journey proves that sustainable success.
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Comes when we lead with. Who we are, not.
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Just with what we do. If you notice in the bottom right, you'll see her.
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Um, is that your… I think that you have a… did you have BrittanysonTeston.com?
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Yep, yep, that's the website, yep.
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Good, thank you. I was thinking about your… I saw that, and I thought, wait a minute, do you go… do you use your LinkedIn one?
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But anyway, if you would, please help me welcome the wonderful Brittany Stinson!
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Brittany, how are you?
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I'm doing well! Thank you so much. Uh, I don't know if you've ever had someone, sort of.
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Put their own spin on your bio and your story, but I love… I want to ask for a copy, I just… it's so awesome, I appreciate that.
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Yeah.
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Oh, thank you! Oh, thank you so much, I appreciate that. It's… It's so exciting to be able to touch people, and… I guess that's why I was so excited when I… Found out about you and what you're doing, and how you're growing, because you have such…
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A true statement on trust. And I love what you do. Watching your TEDx.
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Everybody goes out and finds your TEDx and watches it. It is so awesome.
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Thank you.
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I am so glad you're here. And let's start off… with one of your, what I call a co-star, maybe, in your life?
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How's magic that would… it's a sheepadoodle? How it handles all that kid energy? Tell us more!
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Yep, he's a sheepadoodle. He is… I hope you don't hear him. You may hear him at some point. He's always… he's right around the corner at all times, uh, but he's sweet. He's about 3 years old, so he's in his teenage phase.
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Um, but no, he's just a big, giant. Puppy who thinks he's little, so he's… he's great.
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Because you kind of… sometimes just want to jump into your lap?
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Oh, yeah, he… we have to, you know, redirect. Down, down, you know, onto the floor, not the couch, because he'll take up the whole thing.
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There probably isn't a chair big enough for him. He has to take the couch.
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You know what? The chair's behind me, he'll… he'll find a way to crawl up and curl up so that he fits. It's… it's actually pretty funny.
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That's kind of funny, and I think, like you said. Big dog like that, but still thinks they're just a puppy, just that way.
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Oh, yeah. Mmm.
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But on the other side of it, sometimes… Do they also feel like they're the real boss?
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Of the house? Okay?
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No, he… he knows, so I have a 2-year-old son who is the actual boss of the house right now, and… and they get along well, but no, Magic knows that the baby definitely runs the show.
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That is great training on your part, your family, to train the dog like that, because so many people don't know how to do that.
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No, he's a really… he's a smart dog, yeah.
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That's awesome, that's great to hear, especially that size, and with a 2-year-old. How does a 2-year-old react with the dog?
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So, Magic has a really big tail. And so Isaiah has learned when we come in the house, to kind of, like, block his face, because his face is right at, you know, at the tail level there. So, they've found their way to, like, work around each other. It's pretty funny.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Oh, that is great, that sounds awesome. Well, let's go back to something that I mentioned earlier that I truly enjoyed, and that was your TEDx talk.
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Can you touch on that a little bit? And trust, and… Working with people, maybe take a minute, introduce yourself, and… Talk about that TEDx talk for a minute, if you don't mind.
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Yeah, I would love to, thank you. Uh, my, you know, going all the way back to my very, like, early career, I've worked in support roles, uh, for my entire career, either in nonprofit or in hospitals, and so… Um, over the years, I was working for someone all the time.
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And I didn't realize it, but I had really suppressed and silenced my own.
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Ideas and thoughts and, um, you know, the leadership ideas that were coming to me.
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And maybe here and there, I would find a way to, like.
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Speak up and share, but, um… it just… I didn't realize the toll that it was taking on me.
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And so there was a long period of, um… of my life that I just sort of was fulfilling someone else's vision and ideas and dreams.
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And then COVID happened, and you know, the whole world sort of flipped upside down, and so… Um, in that time, my husband and I, we launched our own online business.
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And he had been speaking on the side for quite a long time, um, but through that journey.
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Early 2021, we both went full-time into entrepreneurship. And I like to think of entrepreneurship as this giant magnifying glass.
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For anything that you've got going on internally. Uh, it'll bring it right up to the surface, because there's really not a lot to hide behind anymore.
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And so, it was at that point, um, I mean, it… we got to the end of 2021.
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And I realized my health was at a terrible place. I was… I was… Heavier than I had ever been, from, like, eating emotionally, not just for, you know, physical and health reasons, um… my… I was having heart palpitations when I would sit down at my laptop to work.
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And, uh, we really got to the point where we said the mastermind that we were leading and the people we were coaching, we just sort of had to.
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You know, off-board everyone, and take a break, and it was a long 6 weeks at the end of 2021 going into 22.
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Of, um, long, hard conversations, looks in the mirror, like… I know we didn't get here overnight.
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Um, but obviously we got here somehow, and I just didn't believe this was the abundant life that we had dreamed of and believed for.
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Um, at that time, we had 3 kids, and… I specifically remember, you know, they would want to play with me, and my three little girls, they want to play, and I just… I would tell them, like, Mommy doesn't feel good.
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And that wasn't the truth. I felt fine, I just didn't have the emotional bandwidth.
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To show up and be there. Um, so that's really where that rebuilding journey started.
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And that ties into my TEDx talk, because as I went on the journey to.
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Discover, like, what's my idea worth spreading, which is, you know, the premise of a TED talk.
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Um, I… I realized it was all of these micro-compromises that I had made along the way.
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To abandon my choices, my voice, my decisions. And I had very little self-trust left.
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And so, to build myself back up out of that season, it was… these very small micro-wins and commitments that I was keeping to myself.
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That helped me rebuild and find my voice again, and reshape our entire company and our marriage looks different, the way I parent looks different.
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Um, and it all… I mean, it took a hard season to learn that, but that's where the… The premise of the trust cycle comes from. There's a cycle of distrust in my talk, and then there's a cycle of trust.
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And so that's… that's really, um, just examining how in the world did I get.
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All the way down, and then, you know, back up and out, and so that's where the, um.
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Trust Talk comes from.
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I like that, and it's so true that. Each of us, even though sometimes we go really far down, we definitely go down.
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That we can come back up. And that… It's something that I just so appreciate that you're helping people grab onto.
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Was there anything that… you felt… did you just say one day.
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I don't want to do this anymore, I want to be better, was there a trigger of some sort, Brittany, or…?
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How did… what ignited… Your ability to come back up.
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Where you were.
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Yeah. Yeah, that's a great question. Um, and I've been asked that question before. I'm glad that people have asked me that, because I had to really examine deeply.
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Um, it was… it was November of 21. Um, and we hosted our first.
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Tedx stage, our own event in metro Atlanta. And going into that, that's when the majority of, like, racing heart, all of those anxious feelings were happening. It just felt like the biggest event we had ever hosted.
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And then, like, the very next week. Uh, my husband had a speaking engagement in Sedona, Arizona.
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And so I was able to travel with him to that.
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And you would think, being in Sedona, it's a beautiful place, uh, it was just the two of us, it was, you know, I just, I expected, like, hey, this is really celebratory, we just, you know, got through this event that was really stressful.
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And now we get to go to this beautiful place. And it was just, like, this really surreal moment of, like, this, um… This isn't it, you know? You feel like the big things and the big wins are going to be…
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Uh, what you build them up to be in your mind.
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And then when you get on… in the middle or on the other side of them, and you still feel… numb, or sad, or disappointed.
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Uh, that was really… coming back home from that trip, I was like.
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Something's not… something's not right. Something's gotta change, and so that's… that's kind of when we… started having some of those really hard conversations.
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Wow, that's pretty impressive. To see that, and… Do you feel that's what a lot of people go through? As you're mentioning, they have… You've built something up, and… You have this big plan, you have this… Gala, whatever it might be, and then all of a sudden, it's just…
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Not there… What… well, I guess I like what you just said. You started having talks.
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You and your husband? Kind of sharing…
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, we had to… so I can remember a few times just sitting on the couch across from each other. I mean, we… we would talk for 4 or 5 hours about things that we… hadn't… I mean, we had been married 7 years at that point.
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And there were conversations that we probably should have had. Even before getting married.
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Um, and so it was like, you know, at that point, when everything seems like it's falling away, for… my pattern is, unless it's a crisis, I just want to keep on keeping on.
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Now, I'm more aware of that today, and so I try to get ahead of myself and not let that be the case, but it is still, like, a default from the way that I grew up, and what I saw was normal.
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And so, for me, it was, we're in a crisis, I'm finally open enough to go into Pandora's box and have some of these conversations. So we talked about.
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You know, what did this mean on our wedding day? Why did this happen? Why is this something we've never spoken about?
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Um, you know, and then we looked at the business, like, why are we anxious to show up for these people? Why do we keep… putting more money, time, and energy into this direction when clearly we're not… enjoying it, you know? Just really tough questions that really are not fun to slow down and ask each other.
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Um, and that, in conjunction with… I started reading a book.
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Called How to Do the Work. It's Dr. Nicole La Pera. It's an incredible book. It's very, like… basic level, you just start to become aware of what.
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Are like, what is going on, right? Like, what are the patterns that I run on autopilot every day?
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And so, that book was really, really helpful for me in that season.
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That is excellent, that's good that there's… there are a lot of books out there.
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Can you give that title one more time? For people that might want to see that same kind of action.
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Yes, it's how to do the work. Dr. Nicole La Pera.
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Um, yeah, it's a great book. Yep.
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How to do the work, Dr. Nicole La Pera. Because that's one of the things that we get into a lot of times.
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We have anticipation, and we have expectations. One of the things that I coach on.
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And if those expectations aren't met. We get into a lull, don't we?
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Hmm…
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We kind of fall back a little bit. And as you mentioned, we don't have that bright light, the bright stars that we think about.
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But the work still has to be done. Is that right?
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Yeah. Yeah, uh, yeah, 100%. I had a mentor a long time ago tell me, don't ever let the highs get you too high.
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Or the lows get you too low. Uh, and… I would argue a little bit on the high side, right? Like, let's allow ourselves to be as happy as we want to be and can be, but the point was, uh, he had shared that with me.
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Right after a really big event that our nonprofit had put on, and we had spent months planning for it.
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And it's kind of that feeling, like, after Christmas, it's like, oh, I did all that, and it was, you know, over in, like, an hour.
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Um, and so there's a little bit of, like, post-event sadness and blues, and he said that line to me, and I think it's a great line.
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Um, but what I've learned is… When that happens, and there's all of this… fallout after something really big. Like you said, there's so much expectation around something.
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Um, there's probably a level of that thing, or that external.
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Event or situation that we were looking for it to validate us.
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Right?
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Or fill something that's missing within us, and there's really only one place that that can come from. You know, we need to do our own level of.
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That internal work, so that the external is really just. Extra. It's not the thing that, you know, we need, uh, because it's never gonna… it's never gonna… do what we really need it to do.
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Yep, yep.
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Unless we do the work, right? Okay, I like that. I love… you've kind of given us, I think, a… That's a movie trailer version… of your journey, and I appreciate that.
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Yeah.
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It went kind of from burnout to building. The seating of greatness, as you call it, or by seeding greatness.
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How did you come up with that title?
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Uh, you know what? Interestingly enough, in that same season of that end of 21.
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We, uh, my husband met a mentor who became a mentor to the both of us.
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And he's in his late 70s. And he's had, uh… multiple strokes, and so he's… he can't see out of one eye.
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Um, and you know what? He is still deeply passionate about the work that he does, and he would just sit with us and talk for hours and try to share and pour into us.
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Um, and it was… it was just really inspiring, but he actually.
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Had a company called Seeding Greatness, and he gifted the name to us.
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To continue that legacy on, and so we… we really honor him with that name.
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Wow.
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That's exciting! Wow, because I love that. Seething greatness.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And then it does come from a seed, right? You've got to help it grow, it's got to be… Nurtured.
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Mm-hmm. It's funny, you're actually the second person this week to catch on to the… The starting small part of the name.
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Um, I actually often forget that part of it, um, but I love that. Yeah, I mean, that's… that's the exact journey that I took. I had to start small.
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And I think sometimes getting from 0 to 1. Is the hardest part. Getting from 1 to 100, we can do that.
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Right? But it's the getting started and that really in seed form, how do we nurture it, protect it, help it grow.
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Um, yeah, so the name is really special to us.
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It sounds like it. And that's what we want to do with Achieving Unity.
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Is to be able to build that, and… almost had a tear come to my eye whenever you were talking about you and your husband.
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Spent hours talking. That is exciting, that's amazing, I wish.
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More people would do that, that's one of the things that I work on with couples.
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To spend that time talking. And don't be afraid to open up to each other, right?
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Be ready to.
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Yeah. Oh, it was terrifying to me. I was… I was… he… he definitely… I can give him a ton of credit. He definitely led the way.
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On that, um, but it was… Because of this… I don't want to rock the boat-the-boat feeling.
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Um, but what he's helped me see, and what I've learned, is the boat's already rocked, right? Like, we already have these things that are undercurrents that are happening.
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And just because we're not openly talking about them every day, they are very much influencing us and impacting us.
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Um, and so, yeah, I mean, set some… set some boundaries, set some guidelines, like, how are we gonna have these conversations using I statements and… keeping the greater goal in mind, like, hey, we're having these conversations for the purpose of healing and reconciliation, and to be stronger, not to point out all of our faults and.
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You know, all of the ugly turns that it could take, but yeah, it was really important for us.
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That is… that's wonderful. I love that. And I like that term that you just used, the undercurrent.
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Mm-hmm.
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Because that's the current that we don't see. Like, we go to the ocean, people who enjoy the ocean, like I do, being out there on the sand.
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I think about getting into the water. But we have to remember there is an undercurrent, there can be an undercurrent out there.
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So when we go out there swimming, if we're not paying attention.
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It can take us out further into deeper water. And it's very difficult to swim against, and that's why you have to swim crossways, right?
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That undercurrent can happen in our lives so easily. I'm glad you mentioned that. I'm glad you used that term.
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Yeah, yeah.
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When you… when you talk about trust, one of the things that I see in… Trust and in personal growth.
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Does it seem that maybe. Trust feels… more fragile today than it might have.
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Years ago? Why is that?
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Yeah, I, uh, probably, probably. It's, you know, it's probably very similar, though, um… The opening line in my TEDx talk is.
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Can you imagine if you're standing in the grocery store, and someone came up to you and asked, can I trust you?
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It's an odd question, but subconsciously, we're all asking ourselves that question.
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Um, you know, in person and online. I don't think we realize it, but we're… we're… constantly vetting someone. You know, even, like, so I… I made a post that I want to be a podcast guest.
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You responded. There was probably a level on your part that you had to… consciously or subconsciously say, ah, can I trust her with my… my audience, my brand, you know?
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And then vice versa. Is this… is this a trustworthy person to engage in a dialogue?
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Um, so I do think, especially with social media, especially because we're.
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Exposed to so much information, and so much misinformation. That we all are, like, on this heightened… uh, guardedness?
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And, um, I think, again, it's an undercurrent. I think it's, like, slowly.
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Affecting us that we don't realize how much we're running in the back. You know, like, when there's a computer program running in the background, and your battery dies a lot faster?
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I think it's, like, every… everybody, is this true? Is this safe? Is this trustworthy? Are you okay? Can I… you know?
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Um, yeah, I think it's a big deal today.
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I think you're so right, and that's why… takes me back to last week, when the podcast and the storm comes through.
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Hour goes out. I didn't have backup. That's one thing I've got to do, and that's the same thing in our life.
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Yeah.
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And what we do, and… In that trust.
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Like you're saying, the trust of someone and to talk to them, and as we did, and talk, and email.
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To build that trust. But how do we do that trust with others?
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And then the next point… that I want to ask about, it's your… concepts, and then your feedback, which I know a lot of, but… You mentioned about not keeping your word in the past.
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And how to rebuild trust. With yourself.
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First, can you tell us a little bit more about that?
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Yeah, I mean, if we have a conversation about how can I trust other people, in my opinion, the first place to start is, can I trust myself?
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Um, because the way that I see myself is deeply gonna impact the way that I see other people, right? We wear these own lenses of projection.
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And so, for me, it was like, if I'm having an inner dialogue, it's just me and myself, nobody else even knows.
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Maybe I said, I'm gonna push the plate away after this serving, or I'm gonna cut down on sweets, or I'm gonna make it to the gym.
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Or I'm gonna, you know, actually play with my kids the next time they ask me to sit down and play Monopoly.
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Um, nobody knows I'm having this conversation with myself. And so, when I break that.
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Commitment, that even though it was silent. There's this erosion that's happening, and I don't see myself as a trustworthy person.
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So, of course I can't see anybody else. As trustworthy, because I'm not even trustworthy when I look in the mirror. So, that is, like.
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In my opinion, the first place to start. Um… you know, I show up when I say I'm gonna show up, I go when I say I'm gonna go, I don't when I… And that makes it way more important to say no. That way, you don't have to break a promise later on.
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Um, yeah, that's… that's, to me, self-trust is the key to the rest of it.
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And I like that word you also used there when you said erosion.
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Because that trust does seem to erode away. Erosion is that… It's there, but as the life goes by, as the stream goes by.
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It takes a little bit away each time. And then it's less and less.
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And then don't we also hear people sometimes say, well, yes, but that's not what I meant. I meant this instead of that.
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But here was the same result. Which could, again, be… an eroded path.
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We have to… Build it within our own heart.
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Mind, our soul. So that we can catch on to it, and this isn't… As I talk about people who think about achieving unity is… oh, that's that nicy stuff, that's a… Lowery stuff, and it's not as strong and it's powerful.
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And that's like trust. So, oh yes, you can trust me.
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Yeah.
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Unless… something comes up, that pain versus pleasure.
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If I do stay with what I said. I'm gonna have pain here.
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So, that erosion. Kicks in fairly quickly, doesn't it?
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Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah, I think, um, the, you know, the biggest thing that stood out about what you just said is the… trust and unity and these words like that, they are easy to kind of… you know, just sort of… sure, sure, we kind of put it over in a category, like, yeah, they're important, but, uh.
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What do they even really mean, right? And so, obviously, the work you're doing, the work I do with trust.
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There's a lot to both of those words, and you could spend a lifetime trying to work on unity, just in and of itself.
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And trust, and, um, so they're not words to be written off, because they're really not.
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Easy to deal with.
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And that is so true… so… so strong, because… Even Unity itself.
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Is the power, the strength. I'm encouraging.
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Inspiring and including others. Personally and professionally.
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And that is so strong that people don't think about. It's not about… giving money at the… street corners, somebody who's holding a bag out there, that… That is nice, don't take me wrong, that's very… Nice of you to do that, but Unity is so much stronger.
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And then trust, like you're saying. Sometimes it's that simple thing that says, I'll pick you up at 6. I'll come get you in the morning, and I won't be late.
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I know you have an important meeting. But if you don't do that.
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As you mentioned, that trust erodes, right? But erosion starts there.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Do you have any, maybe, daily, or… Periodic habits that you continue to do to help.
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Maybe help you stay aligned? And maybe trust yourself more?
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Yes, uh, for me, the first place that I would suggest, if you want to start with this work, is journaling.
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And you don't have to be a poet or a writer, you don't have to journal long, long pages.
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Um, I actually started with Jot journaling, so just very quick thoughts, whatever poured out.
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Um, and the reason for it was I… I wanted to reflect on my day, so I don't… I don't necessarily do it every day in the morning and evening anymore. I think it's sort of just something I'm doing internally now, but when I had to start the habit.
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Um, I had a morning… Uh, like a morning rhythm of how am I feeling?
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How do I feel like yesterday went? Where did I feel disappointed?
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You know, just sort of, like, just reflection, and awareness, and building up that muscle of awareness.
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And then, at the end of the day, I would look at.
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What do I feel really proud of? What do I feel a little disappointed in?
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Wow.
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Where do I see the opportunity, and where's the gratitude? Because I think for someone who's in a position who wants to grow, any personal professional development.
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It's really easy to keep raising the bar. And without the gratitude, it becomes really lopsided, and, you know, you can see yourself as, like, oh, I'm never getting there.
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Um, so it's both. It was really important for both sides to be acknowledged, so I would say.
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If you need to do it daily, great. If you can only do it a couple times a week, that's better than nothing, but that reflection process… to build that awareness muscle.
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Is… is absolutely where I would start in the self-trust journey.
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That is excellent. Again, the way you use words is so… powerful, and as you called that.
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Trust muscle, because that awareness muscle. It's something, just like each of us, where we walk, we run, we lift weights.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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It's building muscles, and making us stronger. And that's where that trust can come in, that awareness.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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To become aware and to build that muscle. And it's kind of funny you talk about that. I'm… very IT-oriented, I'm… harassed often by my family because of how much time I spend on the computer.
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Of course, now, I've got multiple monitors, and… That's a nice little ottoman here to put my feet up on while I'm working. I can take my… Keyboard away from it, and… I also have a phone that does all that voice recognition.
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Yeah…
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So some of the things that you're talking about, that journaling.
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I just hit my phone. And if the markup on it.
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And I journal to my phone. I send myself messages.
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Yep, yep.
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That, of course, I have a way to… I can see my phone on my computer, like a lot of people can.
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And I can go through those things. That journaling that we need.
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And it helps, I think. I think it helps make it more solid to write it down.
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Break it down, write it down. Review its dependency, that's another… talk I have on my development management side.
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But about listening and dialogue. Break it down. Write it down, review its dependencies and get it done.
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And so that same journaling, like you're talking about. That might help us get there, right?
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Yeah.
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Yeah, 100%. I love what you said about reviewing it. I… if you want to verbally process your day, that's great. I prefer to handwrite things, so I have, like, my favorite pen, and I have my favorite journal, you know, but whatever is your flavor, that's great. It's the act of doing it.
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And then what you said, I love it, going back. And reviewing, um… I didn't do that often in the beginning, but there have been some really crucial moments where I've gone back and looked at maybe.
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A journal entry from 6 months ago, or a year ago, or a few years ago.
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And you want to talk about gratitude. Like, being in the work on a consistent basis.
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Um, it feels like you're taking baby steps every day, but when you can look back.
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Over time and distance, and see how far you've come, or even things that you were worried about back then.
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That you made it through, and, you know, they're in the rearview mirror.
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Um, that is such a powerful practice to… to reflect and review.
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And then you can also say, if you're still journaling about the same thing that you were, you know, 6 months ago or a year ago, well, there's probably an opportunity to get a little bit more intentional and dial in.
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Some, you know, extra practices around that.
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How can we say that? Some extra practices. Another thing that's kind of funny, now we're not together anymore, but… We're still friends, but my ex and I, we talked about that, and… I… How would you say… I merge a lot of the things I do in business.
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With my personal life, and that's some of what I do when I talk about achieving unity.
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Mm-hmm.
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And… one of the words… one of the… processes, about retrospectives that are used in business.
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I try to work with my journaling also, as we were just talking about, is.
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When you journal, I look at it and say. What worked today?
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What didn't work today. And what can I do about it?
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Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
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Mm-hmm.
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Is it something that I can just… oh, that was… Only a small maneuver. I can guide a little bit different.
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Or… and I do use the word project, because everything we do is a project, if you have a… people that have the Project Management Institute, it's… everything's a project.
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Beginning and end and result. So any of these things that you journal.
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Sometimes they're minor changes. I shouldn't have eat that… shouldn't have eaten that third donut.
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Yep. Yeah.
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You know, you can judge on that? But sometimes there are projects, sometimes it's… Well, I do need to put in another exercise routine. Sometimes I do need to get up a little bit earlier to get there on time.
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But in that journaling. What worked? What didn't work?
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What can I improve, right?
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Yep. Yep, absolutely, yeah.
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Well, something that I think about in… with the people that I talk to, it's… it's a challenge for some of us.
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A bigger challenge for me, as well as some of the others, but… sometimes with what you did, and you got together with your husband.
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You got started, we talked earlier about your seed of greatness.
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How can our audience, if we talk to them, how can… What are some things that they might be able to do to… start rebuilding their trust.
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In their relationship, they might be… they might feel maybe it's a little bit broken.
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A bit distant. What are some seeds that they might be able to plant and nurture and help.
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Grow it forward. Thank you.
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Oh, such a good question. Um, we talked about having those conversations. Um, one of the things I mentioned was setting those sort of guidelines or boundaries around the way that you want to have the conversation.
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Um, I would highly recommend. If you are… are gonna consciously step into a process to rebuild and try some, you know, like, hey, we know we want to make this work, we know we want to get closer.
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Where do we even start? I would… and if you don't feel comfortable verbally saying this to your partner, I would write it down.
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I would write down a commitment. Like, I'm committed to making this work, this is what I desire for us, this is what I want for us.
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And just setting that vision and intention on the front end.
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For you as a unit. Uh, I think it's really easy to jump… Straight away to, here's what I want you to do better as my partner.
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You know, we're, like, in a sort of, like, I'm pointing fingers attitude. So I would start with setting an intention and committing to this new vision, and having each of you do that.
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And share that with one another, either written or verbal. Um, and in doing that, releasing… we talked about expectations, releasing all expectations.
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That your partner is going to say it the way that you said it, or say as much as you said, or maybe as poetically as you said it, right?
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Just… just be thankful that you're even in the practice. Um, and release the expectations of what you think.
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They're gonna come back to the table with, because I've been there and done that, and it doesn't go well, and I'm always bummed out.
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Um, and then don't try to set those expectations and boundaries in the heat of the moment.
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Right? It's like, hey, when we're doing good, and we're in a really solid spot, or maybe we go out to lunch, and we set time aside.
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Here's our goals, or here's how often we're gonna sit down and talk. Maybe we can try to lean into this a couple times a week, or whatever that looks like.
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I would have that conversation about the new practice. When everything's good.
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Because trying to set those boundaries and guidelines in the heat of the moment is just a recipe for disaster.
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So do that at a separate time. And then, great, that's the win for today.
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Another day comes, now we can engage and sort of start to open Pandora's box.
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And we've got our guidelines set from a previous day, and we just, you know, obviously try to adhere to those, and.
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Take breaks when you need them.
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I like that, and to take those brakes. And I see where you talk about living in alignment.
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And helping us with that process. How can our listeners spot.
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When they truly are aligned, or possibly… When they're not aligned, but… Maybe not able to quite admit it. Can we… can you help us?
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Yeah. Yeah, oh, it's such a good question. It's all the same conversation, right? It's all the same trust conversation.
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And, um, you have… it's the same thing, reflect. In your reflection time.
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In your review time, whatever that looks like for you. Being honest with yourself.
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And looking back and saying, okay, I have a picture of the person that I want to be.
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Did this action or, you know, outcome, or the way that I said this, or how I showed up, does that align with the picture of who I want to be in my mind?
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Now, we have to be honest. Yes, it did, or no, not so much. And if it did, great, let's celebrate.
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And if not so much, then there's your question, right? How… what can I do about it?
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Um, but you have to be honest in that reflection time.
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And it's… it's subtle, it's so subtle. For me, it was. That's how I got out of alignment, because it was just these tiny micro-compromises that I had made for so long.
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And I didn't see it, because I wasn't reflecting and reviewing and trying to grow. Um, but I pro… it's almost like, uh, you know, reticular activating system? It's like, oh, I want a black SUV, and now I see them everywhere.
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The minute you make the decision that you're going to grow and improve and work on these muscles.
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Uh, I believe you'll start to notice. You'll start to feel a little, maybe like a twinge in your gut, or you'll start to feel kind of like a ugh feeling.
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When you're out of alignment, when you're in it. Oh my gosh, you're… you're energized, you're excited, that felt great. I feel proud of who I am. I matched that vision in my mind.
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Um, yeah, and that review process kind of, like, doubles down on both sides.
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It does. I think you explained that very well. I like that process.
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If you don't mind, I'm gonna look at… well, first, before I talk to you, I like what you said also about honesty and truth.
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All of this has to work on honesty and being truthful.
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Yeah, thanks.
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We want to be open. Polite, professional.
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Respectful. Be open and honest, and… be able to tell the truth in each of those.
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Yeah.
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I like how you said that. But, if you don't mind, I want to take us to… what am I called? Leadership?
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And balance. Because you've been through a lot. You've come up strong.
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Well, being a… and kind of going with our… our… theme this month.
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Your mom, you're a wife? You're an entrepreneur?
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You're a strategist, you have a dog the size of a horse?
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How do you balance all those roles without losing yourself? I don't know.
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Yeah, that's a good question. Uh, well, some days I don't, and some days I drop all the juggling balls, and myself is nowhere to be found.
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Uh, but on… on the days that it's working. Um, I like the word rhythm.
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Uh, the same mentor who shared that, uh, previous quote with me.
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He had this way of explaining balance, and sometimes when you feel like you're on a tightrope, and you have to balance.
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It's a very tense, fragile… environment, right? And I feel like I need to balance my way across the tightrope.
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And so, rather than feeling like I need to do that every day, because it doesn't often work out well.
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Um, I just… I… I look at rhythms and seasons. And if I can kind of stay in tune with the rhythm of my life and what's happening.
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And I can be honest about the season that I'm in.
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Then I can flow, uh, with the current of my life instead of trying to, you know, go against it. Like, right now, my kids just went back to school this week.
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And so, they've been home. All day, every day, for 2 months.
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And I was honest about that season, right? Like. I'm not going to launch anything big and new, like, actually, we did launch a new event, but… but it took a lot of work, um, so I can be really, like, have a healthy assessment of, like, what is this season?
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What is the rhythm and the cadence of my life right now, so that I can just feel… grateful for what is happening.
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And now, we're in a really… like, the fall is usually a really busy time for us. My husband's on the road a lot more.
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The kids are back in school, so there's a lot of, you know, just a lot. It's a lot of activities and things happening.
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In a really good way, but then, now we know, like, hey, there's gonna be some late nights, there's gonna be some early mornings.
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There's going to be some extra workload, and we're not mad at each other, and disappointed that we didn't hit date night every single week.
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Because we understand the season and the rhythm that we're in.
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And as long as we can kind of… like… like the other day, we snuck away in our Monday meeting was actually turned into a lunch date.
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Oh, fun.
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And that's fine, because that worked out great. And Friday night, he's not even home, because he's in another state. And so, that… there's no date night this week, but that's fine, because we're just going in rhythm and in sync with this season, so… Um, yeah, I like that word a little bit better than balance feels stressful.
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It is, and that rhythm… For those of us… I love music, and it has that rhythm.
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Hmm.
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In that music. It is… Great thinking, it's great.
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Portrayal of what you're going through and what you're thinking about.
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Well, tell me, what lessons, maybe, from parenting. Have made you a better leader.
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A lot. The number one thing that stands out, uh, as a parent, um, well, there's two.
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The first one is, when you can see how much of yourself is in your kid.
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And you're like, man, I am… I… I was just like that.
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And so, um, we… it's sort of like some humble pie sometimes, right? It's like, I can be as frustrated at them as I want to be.
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But I was the same way. Um, and so it's a good mirror. I think parenting is another great mirror, just like entrepreneurship.
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Um, and then a really great leadership lesson is there are times when I just, like, totally get it wrong. Like, flat out got it wrong.
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And I have to… I don't have to. I've learned to go and apologize.
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Yeah, you too.
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That's awesome.
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To my kids. And I never had that growing up, like, I… yeah, I can't really remember a time… When my mom would… or dad would say sorry… now, they were amazing people.
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We're just, like, having a little bit more conscious conversations around our house.
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And so, if I blow up and yell. I try my best to come back around and say, I'm sorry.
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I shouldn't have yelled, like, I misunderstood the situation, or whatever.
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And so I hope that I'm showing them that it's okay to apologize to the people that you lead.
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Um, the mom realizes that she gets it wrong sometimes. And that can absolutely be applied to teams and, you know, people that you lead, and coworkers, and everybody. I mean, the ability to apologize and.
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Acknowledge where he got it wrong is a big, big deal.
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It is, and I'm so glad you mentioned that, and of course, my kids are already.
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They're out of college, they're on in their careers. And it's fun sometimes for my son just to start talking about things.
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And I apologize to him on my parenting. You know, I could have done that better.
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Hmm…
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I wish I would have known. You know, there's a song about, I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then. Well, I wish so many things!
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I wish… I would have known then. That I didn't know. Because, like you said, I have… both my parents are great, my mother gave me a great positive attitude.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah… Hmm…
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Mm-hmm.
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But when I think back about it, I can think. Wait a minute, that wasn't positive, but… Overall, they were great, and… I do want to say that I look up to you and your husband.
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That you do have that rhythm. That you do take that time for that.
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Middle of the week lunch. And as you mentioned, sometimes a weekend, and.
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A lot of us still look at weekends and say, hey, that's the time for us to be together, but.
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Sometimes we can't. So, well, we only have about 5 minutes left, 4 and a half minutes left.
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Yeah.
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Brittany, I have truly enjoyed this. Do you have any closing comments or thoughts that you might want to… Share with us about all these great things that you're doing. You've talked about a lot of.
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Things that we need to do. Would you like… what would you like to say the clothes?
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Yeah, great question. Um, I mean, obviously, I'd love to connect with anybody who's interested in connecting. Um, you can go to my website, I've got all of my social media handles are there at the bottom of my.
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Website. It's just my first and last name.com. Um, go ahead, opt in. I… I don't do my newsletter all the time, but that's… that's also changing, so you'll hear from me a lot more regularly.
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Um, so any way that you'd like to be connected, obviously, if you want to go watch my TEDx talk, it's on YouTube.
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It's how to trust yourself and others. Um, and… and I would just say, like, it's… I mean, I sort of already said it, but I think.
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I would encourage anyone listening who feels like, oh, those things sound amazing, I have no idea where to start.
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Um, I get it. 0 to 1 is incredibly hard, and I actually, from that book that I mentioned.
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Um, she told the story about this woman who… She was very sick, and there was a lot of complications, and um… the short of it is she ended up drinking.
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A glass of water every morning before she did anything else, because she figured, if I can keep this one tiny commitment to myself.
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Then that shows me I can do, you know, everything else that I'm trying to do. And I did, I started with that. I was… I would wake up.
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Before coffee, before my smoothie, before anything else, I would drink a glass of water before anything else.
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Because I told myself that I would. And it was this really symbolic representation for me of, like, I'm committed to this process.
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So if you don't have any idea where to start tomorrow morning.
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Drink a glass of water. Before you do anything else, just to… anchor that in and remind yourself.
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I'm on this journey, even if it's a baby step every day, because I know over time and distance, I will look back and be so grateful.
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For all of the hard conversations, decisions, choices. That I made, and it actually turned out to be a really beautiful choice.
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That is beautiful. Brittany, thank you so much, because as you said, no matter how small the step.
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That still takes you forward. Thank you again for making such a powerful.
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Transparent and inspiring guests on today's episode. Your willingness to share your journey.
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Oh, I appreciate it.
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Broken trust and burnout. To alignment, to healing, to success.
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Gave us a real new… a real-world road roadmap. To rethink how we do life, and leadership.
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Your insights on rebuilding trust. Both personally and professionally.
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And growing a business through authentic public speaking. I think will resonate deeply with each and all of our listeners.
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Just love how you shared that with us. And to find out more, and I'm sorry to have your LinkedIn profile here, but you're saying is.
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And that's why I was thinking earlier, wait a minute, was it a LinkedIn profile, or was it your name?
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Okay. No, it was great.
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Have your LinkedIn profile in my notes, but it is www.brittanystenson.com.
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Reach out to her. Our journeys are a powerful reminder that unity.
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Trust, and culture, as Brittany talked about. Begins within. Through self-awareness, resilience, and the willingness to grow from these failures.
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And we all do fail. Life is not perfect. But we can grow from it.
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Today's message perfectly mirrors. Achieving unity success formula.
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Turning chaos into clarity. Isolation into inclusion.
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And broken trust into powerful. Collaboration. You've heard what Brittany talked about.
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We can all do better working with others. We cannot do it alone.
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We are a team, we are unity. That's how we grow Ford.
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We must remember that unity isn't just an ideal, as we talked about earlier, it's not an ideal.
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It's a daily choice. To lead with empathy.
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Act with integrity and uplift yourself and others. Along the way.
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So if you felt a spark with anything I've said today, please talk to me, contact me.
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Markentrican.com, call me at 303-FOCUSED. With trust and culture that we learned through Brittany.
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Brittany Stinson, www.brittanystinson.com. Contact her, contact her on LinkedIn.
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We have truly enjoyed all of you today. Until next time, let us continue turning chaos.
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Interconnection. Let us keep achieving unity. We can stay focused.
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As we are achieving unity. By harnessing that strength.
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That power of encouraging. Inspiring and including others.
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Building better businesses, better lives, and a better world. Life is truly what we make it, so let's make it awesome together.
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In Unity, thank you all. Thank you, Brittany, so much for being here, for your message.
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Helping others for your time and your commitment. Appreciate you, Brittany.
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Hope to see you all again here next week. Thank you again.
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Thank you so much, it's been a pleasure.
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Till then
