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Good afternoon, everyone, or good evening. I'm not sure when you're listening to this, if you're live today, which I hope you are.
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Thank you for joining. I am Mark Entrakin.
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President and owner of Reality Focus Dynamics, here on our
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68?
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Podcast! Hope you've been here for every one of them, or if you have not been able to be here for all of them,
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I hope you've gone out to YouTube.
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And viewed them, looked at them, and given me feedback. I appreciate what all you have,
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To share with me, and with the company,
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And what we're doing, as we are creating success-focused solutions,
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And achieving unity.
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By harnessing the…
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The true power of what encouraging,
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Inspiring and including others can do.
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As we take action to
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And, yeah, I do mean N.
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Disconnection.
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Sometimes called division.
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Sometimes called hate.
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We have to change those words.
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Change our attitudes.
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We want to end frustration.
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Our anger. What we want to do is end prejudice.
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Sometimes called prejudgment.
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or preconception. As we continue,
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To build better businesses.
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better lives and a better world.
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That's where we're going, and that's where we need to be.
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It's a process of learning how we grow.
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Each and every day in what we do.
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If you'll notice on the screen, you'll see my barcode… QR code.
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Bottom left, feel free to contact me, get in touch with me at any time.
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Let me know what I can do to help you.
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Well, how we can work together, because that's where we all begin.
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With achieving unity in what we do.
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For today's episode, we all know someone who whines.
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And I'm going to give you some facts,
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And some help, and some support.
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And I'm also going to try to bring some humor into this process.
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Because, as we say, we all know we want someone who whines.
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And if we can't think of who that might be, congratulations!
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Except, that person may be us.
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Yes. We all wine at times, and we're gonna go through that here in a few minutes, and we're going to talk about
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What it is, what wine is, and what that H.
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and wine can mean.
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Whining is not.
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Truly, it is not.
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A personality flaw. It's usually a life message.
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To disguise.
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Right, it's a life message to disguise.
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And today, I want to show how we can decode
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that life message, all about.
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that wine, and change it.
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Remove that H, and change it to a line that we can all enjoy.
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Next slide, please.
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For many of you, I'm a… I am a DT, I'm a distinguished Toastmaster.
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And what that means is…
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We have club meetings, and we have
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Chance for us to all get together and speak.
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And work together.
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And some people know about Toastmasters, and some people do not.
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If you're not a member of Toastmasters, please…
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Go out to Toastmasters.org.
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Check it out. There is a club near you.
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You just go out there to the Toastmasters.org,
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Put in location, then you can put in your home address, your home zip code.
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Or your work zip code? Or just the zip code where you want to meet, and it will give you
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The location of the closest Toastmasters
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Two, your zip code.
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Look into it. Join.
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It helps in camaraderie. It helps in learning… helping us all.
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Learn to speak better, and to be in front of a camera.
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Or, to be able to talk one-on-one.
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Even your relationships at home.
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Whether it be your spouse, your children,
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Or you're talking to…
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the C-suite, the chief executive officer, chief operations officer, the chief financial officer.
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Or your manager or your supervisor are the people who work with you.
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It helps us all speak better.
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And Toastmasters began with the idea…
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where the toast came from, of toasting cream.
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courage. Growth.
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And boys. Today,
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To know that you're listening to it in the evening.
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We're offering a different kind of toast.
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What is the toast? In…
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Toastmasters.
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Next slide, please.
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What we're going to do today is we're going to get the H.
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out of wine. As we know, wine is spelled W-H-I-N-E.
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Well, what we want to do is remember.
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That H can come out, and we're going to show you how, because we're going to show you the meanings of H for a lot of people.
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But remember, it's to whine W-I-A-D…
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And not DeWine, W-H-I-N-E.
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It's here to have fun, and that's what we want to do.
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And all the things that we do is have fun,
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Being together, sharing together, and see what we can do together.
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Well, let's go look at a couple of facts about toast.
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Next slide, please.
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On the funny side, either give me more wine, or leave me alone.
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That's just a funny quote.
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Just to think about, is we want wine that helps us. Something that we can enjoy.
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That's where wine should be.
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But I was looking at the triple F,
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Few fun facts. Did you know that the Greeks supposedly invented the toast?
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The toast will be clink two glasses together?
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Poisoning, at the time, was the most popular way of getting rid of people.
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In those days, and toasty is different people in those days,
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And toasting became a way to assure.
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That your drink was not poisoned.
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You might say, well, how was that?
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Well, it was believed that if we toast our glasses,
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Some of your drink, some of their drink,
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will spill over into the other glass.
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And, in this way,
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If your wine was poisoned,
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So was everyone else's.
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We didn't want to be sick, or die.
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So we always be careful with that, but when we toast it,
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That let us know that, hey,
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If they're good with their wine, so are we.
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And that's something worth whining about, right?
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Next slide, please.
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On the funny side, exercise, as we know,
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Makes us look better in a swimsuit.
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But so does wine.
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Shoes wisely. And…
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That's one of the things that we talk about, is wine can be good for you, especially red wine. A little bit better than the white wine, but they're still better for us.
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But did you know champagne is also a wine?
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Champagne is made of Chardonnay,
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Pinot Noir? A Pinot Moniere.
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Most commonly. That's how they make champagne, is with those 3 white wines.
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Champagne bottles, when you open them,
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Just a little… one of those few
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Familiar facts are up to 6 bar of pressure.
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Which is about 2 to 3 times the air pressure of your tire.
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That's a lot of pressure.
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So, if we shake a bottle vigorously,
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And pop that cork of the wine they were about to drink and toast,
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It can reach a speed of up to 40 kilometers.
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That's 24.8 miles per hour.
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So, someone's pointing that bottle in your direction,
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It might be nice to duck.
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Next slide, please.
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Again, we're going to get more serious in a minute, but let's start off with a little bit of fun.
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Although Rome was known for their incredible architecture,
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their culture, their politics.
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and philosophy, they had huge pollution issues back in the day.
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We don't think about it today with our…
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on the…
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great water that we can drink, and all the purification that it goes through.
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But back then, poor sanitation led to illness.
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So the Romans used to add wine
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to their water to purify the water.
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Pretty good thinking. Of course, when you do that, when you're drinking your wine,
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It's a little bit less winding, right?
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Next slide.
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On the healthy side, to get the same amount of antioxidants that we find in wine, you know, the wine that we drink, that we enjoy,
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We would need to drink 20 glasses of apple juice.
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or 7 glasses of orange juice,
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To get that same amount of antioxidants.
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So, is that a… would you like a glass for that wine?
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It's a great idea, and it can be good for you.
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Again, as I'll talk more in a minute, it's all about how much you drink.
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Next slide, please.
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So, red and wine, white…
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Red and White wine grapes.
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All produce clear juice.
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Maybe people didn't know that.
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The rose wine, for example, gets its color,
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Because it is a red wine with
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Limited contact with the scans.
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And the skin, during the aging process. And the skin is where
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The wind gets its color.
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So the red wines come from the grape skin,
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And it's all because that they are fermented.
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With that skin longer, which gives it the color.
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Red wine, though, contains high levels of antioxidants.
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And studies show that drinking red wine
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In moderation,
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could lower incidences of cardiovascular disease.
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That's with your blood, your blood flow.
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Drinking red wine in moderation, one,
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Maybe two, depending on what your doctor tells you. Glasses per night could be beneficial for you.
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But of course, talk to your doctor.
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And again, moderation is the key here.
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Think about that a second. How much is enough?
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I like to have one glasses, one glass.
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Maybe 2 glasses, but just enough wine to feel good and to enjoy the flavor.
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what wine is,
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Sometimes it's a little bit drier, sometimes it's a little bit sweeter, but to enjoy that flavor,
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But don't drink.
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too much.
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Excellent. Next slide, please.
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Remember, wine improves with age.
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We can improve with wine.
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Okay, maybe, maybe not.
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But the point's there. Wine does improve with age.
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And if we take care of ourselves,
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We, too, can improve.
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So, if we ever get bored,
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We could start a rescue effort.
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We can always rescue that bottle of wine that may be trapped.
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are cut inside that bottle.
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Next slide, please.
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So I hope we all get to wind together soon.
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But today, starting with this next slide in just a second,
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We are offering a different kind of toast, because remember, we talked… we started talking about this when we started talking about Toastmasters.
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And speaking better, and being stronger, and more confident.
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But this, starting now,
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is a toast to unity.
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To enjoy our wine, get the H out of wine,
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Drink the wine for enjoyment,
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But let's see where that H come from.
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And we take that H out of wine…
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What does that mean?
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Next slide.
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From toast to wine, as we know, wine celebrates, or wine represents celebration.
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It celebrates growth and renewal.
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But when life drains us,
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Well, life drains us of the problems and the issues and the concerns and things that we have,
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Wine, W-I-N-E,
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can quietly turn into
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Wine, W-H-I-N-E.
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So the big idea here, what we're talking about,
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When we take the H out of wine,
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We don't just change a word.
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We change what you're actually dealing with.
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When people whine,
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Something inside them is asking to be
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healed. Heard.
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or helped. Recognize those H words?
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Healed. Heard.
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or help. That's what we need to think about.
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So, we take that H out of wine…
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Let's take it the right direction.
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Next slide, please.
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Can we take the H out of wine, when we go from W-H-I-N-E…
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to WINE, removing the H.
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doesn't change the word.
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It reveals the cause.
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So when we take the H out of wine,
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We're not just changing the word.
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What we're doing is actually revealing the cause of the whine that we started with.
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Winding does not mean something's wrong.
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It means something important.
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is trying to get your attention.
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So when people are continually whining, they have something inside them.
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They may be trying to get out.
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Maybe trying to get some help.
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With that H. That's one of the things that we have to think about.
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We take the H out of wine…
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When we address the H,
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Then, our unity.
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can replace frustration.
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When we go from Y to be H-I-N-E,
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to YW INE?
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When we address that H, the pulling of that H under that word
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The unity that develops.
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replaces… can replace that frustration.
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That may be in each and every one of us.
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Next slide, please.
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What about the H in hurt?
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H-U-R-T-E.
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Some people don't…
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People don't whine because they're difficult.
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They whine because something
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Inside them needs healing.
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People don't know why? Because…
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Because of other problems, as much as they need healing.
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People don't whine because they're weak.
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People don't whine because they're dramatic.
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People whine because something hurt,
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And nobody has noticed.
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And maybe they haven't told anyone.
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If they're being hurt and don't… no one knows it,
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We don't read minds.
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We often whine because something inside us is hurting,
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But if we don't share,
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What that is, that is hurting us.
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No one else is going to know.
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When we address that hurt,
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When we talk about that hurt,
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We find someone that we can trust.
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Whether it be a coach,
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Council? That is where we start learning, because the whining can stop.
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And then we can begin healing.
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Notice the H in that word also.
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When we address the hurt,
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The whiling stops, and we can then…
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begin the healing.
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A little bit on the funny side, and again, we'll try to keep some fun in this.
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presentation. But of humans.
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came with those check engine lights, like you see on your car, come across your dashboard.
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If a human came with a check engine lights, that whining might be…
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a blinking light.
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So when you hear people whining,
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There might be a blinking light there that we're missing.
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So reach out to them, talk to them.
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Be open with them.
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Listen to them, but sometimes they may talk and talk and talk,
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and not share the issue that's inside them that may be
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trying to get out.
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Next slide, please.
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Helplessness.
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Whining often means…
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I don't yet see my…
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power. Sometimes that whining often means
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I don't know what to do.
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And I don't… now to… I don't know how to say that.
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I don't know how to say that I don't know what to do without feeling
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Hurt?
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Insecure?
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Maybe there's a chance of…
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Weakness? That's what we need to turn to.
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Because too many times,
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When we hear whining, the whining is often the voice of someone
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It does not yet see.
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Their own power, to see how good they truly are inside,
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But Phil, possibly…
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weak? A little bit inept.
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What we want to work on is helping them.
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Understand that they do have the power.
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The whining is not helping them.
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spoon's a little bit on the funny side.
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Warning is basically Google
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For people who have forgotten their password.
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We talked about it. Sometimes they don't know their own power.
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So sometimes, when you're searching on Google,
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It's the people who forgot their password to search.
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For how good they are.
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To look at the value within themselves.
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That's where we need to focus. We don't want that H.
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We get that H out of wine.
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To become a helpless situation,
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Or for someone to feel helplessness.
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But instead, to take that wine for drink.
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for happiness, and for joy.
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Next slide, please.
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Sometimes that H, when we pull out of that… pull it out of that word line,
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can be history.
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That's our history, what we've learned.
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Our past experiences.
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taught us what to expect.
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Even when life has already changed.
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Our past experiences…
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may have taught us what to expect.
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We're going to habits in just a second.
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But we learn things, and we repeat them,
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Even though things have changed, and they're not as they were before.
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Some of us are emotionally
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Okay, this is on the funny side, but some of us are emotionally still running in Windows 95.
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If you use a Windows computer, you'll catch on to that.
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Windows 3.0, Windows 95, 98.
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All of these new windows that are coming out…
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But if we're still running…
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Windows 95, emotionally?
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How are we going to get into?
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The New World. The better world.
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That's what we need to focus on.
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That's what we need to be. Getting into that new world.
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Because our old experiences…
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Teach us what to expect based on
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the way things were yesterday.
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Even when life has already upgraded.
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Your life is better today because you've made changes,
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for improvement. Changes being short-term.
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improvements being long-term.
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That's what we need to think about.
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So, again, on the funny side…
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Some of us may still be running.
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Emotionally, on that Windows 95.
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Have you thought about it?
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Are some of the things that we whine about today?
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Things that we could have changed, or did change yesterday?
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Let's get our history…
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out of our wine.
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Let's get that H.
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out of the wine, and start taking our wine ahead,
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With a strength and confidence.
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That we know we need.
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And dessert.
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Next slide, please.
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What about hunger?
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Now, not hunger for food.
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Hunger for appreciation.
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Hunger for clarity.
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Hunger for belonging and respect.
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Hunger can be that appreciation.
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That we haven't felt.
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That hunger could be a clarity.
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that we don't know. That H in our wine,
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and be removed.
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Because we can talk to people that we can belong with.
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As I mentioned earlier, join a Toastmasters.
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And I know every Toastmasters club is not perfect.
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I've been in a few that were almost.
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But I know there's one or two when I was a…
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District Director that weren't quite perfect.
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But come in, join, take it to the next level.
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Build. Along. Be in a belonging.
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Appreciate others.
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That's where we need to be.
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And if we don't understand,
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Ask questions. Look.
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for clarity. That's where it need to be.
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So again, on the funny side,
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Some people may not be high maintenance,
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They may be just low appreciation.
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Some people aren't high-maintenance.
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There's just low appreciation.
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They're hungry for belonging.
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They're hungry for appreciation.
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They're hungry for that clarity.
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That's what we have to think about.
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So let's get that H out of Y.
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Let's think about it.
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let's get out of the high maintenance.
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And that low appreciation, and get into where we want to be.
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where we need to be today.
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And tomorrow.
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Next slide, please.
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What am I hearing?
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People can feel ignored.
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Even when you've listened.
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People can feel ignored even when you have listened.
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They may feel…
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They're of little value.
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Because sometimes…
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We whine when we feel invisible.
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When we don't feel hurt.
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But what we're saying…
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has not caught on. And maybe we are not saying it right.
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In that wine.
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What we want to do is to be able to communicate better.
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And that's what we do in Toastmasters.
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We learn to communicate better. That's what we learn to do and how we build.
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Upon that.
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We want to learn how to communicate.
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How to collaborate, how to ask those questions.
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Some of you have seen my office, and…
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I have little signs up here that have a question mark on it.
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And a smiling face on it.
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And I ask, always smile first,
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As you respond with a positive question.
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Right? That's on my wall, because I always want to ask the questions.
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Sometimes you have to listen a long time.
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Sometimes people have a lot to say.
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And a lot of times, I have a lot to whine about.
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But us helping them.
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By that hearing, by that listening, we can help them so much.
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That's what we need to think about.
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We whine when we need to… when we feel invisible.
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When we don't feel like we're being noticed.
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So sometimes, whining is what happens when your soul
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Your heart, your mind, and your soul start sending,
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follow-up emails.
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What does that mean? Winding is what happens when your soul starts sending follow-up emails.
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I'm sure whining, you've got something in your soul.
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That's sending you emails.
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It says, I need to be heard.
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Find someone. Find a coach.
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And council, psychologist, psychiatrist, someone to talk to.
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Some men to believe in.
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Some of this will listen to what you have to say.
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They may not want to listen to the whining.
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But they will listen to what you
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Do what you see.
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How you act, how you react.
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Find someone that believes in you as you believe in yourself.
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Next slide, please.
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Here's a big one. Habit.
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The H of habit.
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Habits can create a comfort level for us.
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Something that we do so often.
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That we've created a habit.
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It may not be a good habit. It may be a habit that irritates others.
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Why do we continue?
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But even if we are whining about it,
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We are in control of changing and improving ourselves.
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Habits can create a comfort level for us, but even if we are whining about it,
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We are in control of changing and improving ourselves.
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Listen to ourselves. We talked in the last slide about listening to others.
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Do we listen to ourselves? I listen to our habits?
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A habit is like a con artist.
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that can make it feel comfortable doing something that we know we're going to whine about later.
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Why do we do it?
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What are we doing?
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We've got to break through those habits.
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Learn the habits that aren't doing us any good.
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Created a new habit. And I think we've all heard, sometimes you have to…
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Repeat an action.
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Repeat what you're doing over and over.
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Some say 7 times.
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Some say for a month.
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But the bottom line is, get out of those bad habits.
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Don't let those bad habits create comfort levels for you.
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get that habit, that H,
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Out of the wine, and instead,
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become to the point… come to the point
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We're enjoying what you're doing with good habits.
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Habits of everyone, you, and those you're around.
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can enjoy.
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Next slide, please.
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Hope. We all have hope.
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Always hoping for the better.
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Always hoping for something good.
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Sometimes we buy lottery tickets.
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Sometimes we're hoping we're going to win the lottery.
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What we want to do is encourage others.
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By providing hope for a better future,
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They can embrace.
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Sometimes we hope for things, we hope for things, sometimes we wish for things.
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And they're not going to come.
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Not if we don't do something.
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That hope has a responsibility.
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When we hope for something, there are things that we need to do.
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We hope for something to… to work.
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What are we doing ourselves?
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To make it work.
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How can we put out that effort?
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to build. To grow.
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So, when the hope, when that H,
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is goes missing.
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Whining moves in.
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So maybe the H doesn't go missing, maybe it expands.
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Maybe the H in that wine…
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Doesn't go missing at all.
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But actually grows and expands in that word wine.
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W-H-I-N-E.
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Wining can grow when we forget that change…
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That improving is possible.
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And it is possible. We could all grow with it. We can all build with it.
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We can all have hope. And we put that hope into action.
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Too many times, though.
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That whining is hope, just holding up a cardboard sign.
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And cardboard sounds are good, we see them on the road all the time, people rebelling against something.
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They bring in a point, they bring in an idea, and we need to think about it, we need to look at it.
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But that's what whining is.
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It's just having that cardboard sign.
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Not doing anything, not accomplishing anything.
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Did it take more than that cardboard wine? I'm sorry, that cardboard sign.
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Get rid of that wine, and let's get something done.
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It's good to notify people, as I mentioned, it's good to listen.
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It's good to share, good to communicate, good to collaborate.
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But we need more than a sign.
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I'm gonna put that hope into action.
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by doing what we need to do.
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To get that H out of the wine, and put…
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The happiness and the joy.
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I'm enjoying that glass of wine.
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Into motion.
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Next slide, please.
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How can we support someone who whines?
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Some people are gonna say, Raph, I'm not going to. I'm not going to be around anybody that's.
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But, back to the point, we all whine at times. I know I did. And I hate it.
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I talk to people all the time about none.
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Don't hate things. I know I hate people who whine, and I'm sure some of you do, too.
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I'm sure we… some people just whine too much.
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And sometimes I'm sure I do also.
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But we need to support each other and support those that are whining.
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Because they may have something to whine about.
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They don't know how to correct.
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They don't know how to build. They don't know how to grow, and they don't have that confidence they need.
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But when you're talking to someone who is whining,
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Couple of… there's four different ideas that you can use.
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Number one, repeat what they're saying back to them.
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When they're whining, repeat that whine back to them.
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Not rudely, but when they say something, say, am I hearing you say,
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And repeat it back to them.
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take their needs seriously.
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Because as we talked about earlier,
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Sometimes that wine…
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is… there's something missing in their lie.
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So take their needs seriously.
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Ask them about it. And you repeat that message back to them.
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Listen to the answer. As we talked about, listen to them.
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And then always.
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Emphasize.
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empathize, empathize. Empathize with their feelings.
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And empathy is more than sympathy, because empathy…
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You're truly feeling where they've been. You're putting yourself in their shoes.
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you're understanding their situation better.
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They're just sympathizing and saying, I'm sorry.
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to truly empathize,
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You're going to feel what they feel.
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You're gonna understand better where they're coming from.
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And then sometimes, when you hear somebody whining,
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best thing to do is just to shut up and listen.
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Tough. And sometimes that's when we multitask.
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Because we want to try to listen.
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But we're not. Don't multitask.
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as best you can, listen to them.
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Look at them, look in their eyes.
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Listen what they're saying. Repeat back.
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their messages to them.
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take their needs seriously.
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Empathy. Empathize with their feelings.
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That becomes a leadership and organizational bridge.
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That's when you're building bridges.
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real bridges, not steel bridges.
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But bridges between people.
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You and them. Building unity.
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In organizations, mining is not just a people problem.
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It's a signal problem.
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Because when people are whining,
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It could be someone telling us exactly
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Where clarity?
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Trust, support,
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or belonging is missing.
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Let me say that again.
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Whether it be in your home, in a relationship,
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Your family, socially,
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Corporate? At the office?
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Winning can be telling us exactly.
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Where clarity.
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Trust. Support.
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and belonging are missing.
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We want to listen to when people whine.
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I want to give them that opportunity.
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Repeat it back to them.
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take their needs seriously.
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empathize with their feelings and find out
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Is there something we can do?
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Something they can do?
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Let's shut up. Let's listen.
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And then figure out what.
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we can do with them.
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Next.
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Next slide, please.
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Whining is many times a wounded communication.
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Whining is a wounded communication.
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Unity comes in when…
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We honor the wound and help.
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That we all, each other,
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Helping us all, or each other, heal.
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Unity comes where we…
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truly honor the wound.
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Honor the wound itself. What is wrong?
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And then help each other heal.
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If that's what we have to do.
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Achieving unity, creating unity.
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We can silence.
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The whining. You can take those four steps…
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And silence the whining.
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Or, we can help them solve what caused it.
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Only one of these.
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Build unity. Yes.
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To either solve it,
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Or just silence it.
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But silencing it is good, unless…
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They haven't spoken.
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They haven't gotten beyond.
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That H word.
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That hope, the helplessness, that habit.
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That's what we still need to do.
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So what we knew is… what we must do…
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We solve the H.
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Solve the H. That's what pulls it out of that word, wine, W-H-I-N-E.
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turns it into the word wine, W-I-N-E.
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That's how we make it happen.
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And that's how we build.
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That's how we work toward achieving.
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Unity.
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Next slide, please.
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So what do we do?
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We toast. We raise the glass to wine.
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W-I-N-E.
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When we do that, we celebrate life.
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Celebrate life as it is. And yes…
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We all have problems.
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Some have more problems than others. Some have more devastating problems than others.
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Could be family, could be friends, could be your spouse.
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When we stop managing behavior,
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I started healing people.
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The unity will follow.
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So if we have problems,
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Let's do what we can do to listen.
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learn. Live.
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And be better for each other.
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Celebrate the life that we have.
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It could be better.
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It takes that work, just like we talked about with hope.
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When there's hope, there's possibility.
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But that possibility…
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may require us to get out.
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To do something. To grow something, to build something.
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That's where we need to be.
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We don't know each other's lives.
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Or how each others live.
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We know we all have issues.
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But we can help each other.
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This coming Saturday, I'm helping with a group of people from the church.
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a gentleman whose house burned down.
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We're going to help him rebuild part of it.
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We're gonna just reach out and help.
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To communicate. We're going to celebrate that life is.
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what we make it. So, we're going to make it awesome.
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Together, achieving unity.
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So let's do it. Let's celebrate life.
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As it is, each and every day.
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Next slide, please.
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So, as we talked about, achieving unity
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begins when we take that H.
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out of wine, and turned it into wine.
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W-I-N-E.
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When we stop trying to shut down whining and start listening to the H behind it,
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We stop man… we stop managing behavior,
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And we start helping people.
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So again, when we stop trying to shut down the whining,
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And start listening to the H behind it,
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We can stop managing behavior and start healing people.
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And when we heal people,
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Unity follows.
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I have a lot of things that we talk about about unity.
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And in the presentations coming forward,
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We'll talk about unity and anger.
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Anger's nothing but that actions not gaining effective results.
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We don't want to get angry.
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What we want to do is be calm.
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Because calm helps us cancel.
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Anger and lead motivation.
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That's where we want to be, and that's what we want to do.
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So, when we are achieving unity,
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It begins when we take that H.
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count of the wine.
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W-H-I-N-E.
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Next slide, please.
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So, when we talk about wine, we've talked about several H's that sometimes
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fill that spot, in wine.
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Sometimes it's hurt.
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With hurt, we've got to have communication.
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If we're hurt, no one's going to know about it unless we tell them.
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No one reads lines.
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If you haven't told them, they don't know.
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You might say, oh, they could see by my actions what it's about.
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That's mind-reading, and that doesn't work.
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Another H is helplessness.
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We're not helpless.
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We can talk to other people.
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There are changes, there are situations where we're… there are challenging,
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Where we may have some physical disabilities or physical challenges,
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But helplessness is a way for us to begin to talk.
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And we go ahead and go to extremes, if there are some people who can't talk.
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There's other ways that we can help them communicate.
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Let's get them together, let's help them.
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in any way that we can.
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Then there's history. We talked about this as far as what our history.
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has brought us. Our history and habits go together.
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There's too many times our history is our culture.
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To many times we've learned to hate.
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Sometimes we learn that anger creates solutions. When it doesn't.
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Maybe temporarily, but not long-term.
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Too many times our culture has taught us
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Many ways. About Prejudice.
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Now, prejudgment. Now, prejudging.
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That's not the way to live. That's not the history that any of us want or need.
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We talked about hunger, things that we need.
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The way we can grow.
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Let's a look at each one of these.
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Are any of these hours?
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Do any of these have any of us have these?
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How about hearing?
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Are we good at listening? Are we listening to others?
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Or we listen to them in their empathy, and we are having empathy toward them or for them?
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Understanding their situation, walk a mile in their shoes?
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Before we even think about?
00:41:28.000 --> 00:41:30.000
Any of those habits of judging?
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Get the judging out of here.
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Let's start hearing.
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Because we start hearing…
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We can develop hope.
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And that hope helps us build a better tomorrow.
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Because when we have that confidence inside,
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Inside our hearts, our mind, our soul.
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We can do so much more.
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Once we have that hope, and then we do something,
00:41:56.000 --> 00:41:58.000
do something to make that hope come true.
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We can succeed, we will succeed.
00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:05.000
But again, we have to think about it.
00:42:05.000 --> 00:42:08.000
Which one of these H's could be impacting
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Your wine. Let's get that H out of wine.
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Next slide, please.
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So you see in this little circle,
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The center is healing.
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So the healing, we've gotten rid of the hurt.
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We've talked about it. And sometimes there's pains that…
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are physical.
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Sometimes there's nothing we can do about those.
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for a while. People we need to talk to, medically.
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When do you get rid of that hurt, start healing.
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Get rid of our history of the prejudice.
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History of habits.
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When do you get to hunger in the right direction?
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Need a hunger for the good.
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Now you're for other things. It's not just hunger for appreciation.
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Do something for others that they will appreciate.
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Not everyone will, but that's where you get that whine out of here, that H out of here.
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You start finding, and maybe re-evaluating friendships.
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Hope. Always have hope.
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But do something to put your hope into action.
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Put it into action. Talk is cheap.
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Put your hope, your words,
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into something that you can build, something you can grow.
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put it into action. Don't just talk.
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Hunger, we've talked about that.
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Oh, it's on the screen twice, sorry about that.
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Helplessness. Don't feel helpless.
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There's things that you can do.
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Do them. Reach out.
00:43:41.000 --> 00:43:44.000
talk to a counselor, talk to a coach.
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Let us help you. Let us talk about these issues.
00:43:47.000 --> 00:43:49.000
You need someone to listen to.
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That's the best person to talk with is someone who is trained.
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Someone who knows how to listen.
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Knows how to bring those ideas back.
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So we can turn that hope
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into healing.
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Next slide, please.
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So since we're healing, let's offer a toast.
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To whine.
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As we close, I want you to know that growth.
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healing, and unity.
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Do not have to be journeys.
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That you walk alone.
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They do not have the journeys you walk alone.
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If something you heard today,
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Maybe a sturdy question.
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Touch a challenge, or opened a new possibility in your heart.
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I invite you to reach out.
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My QR code there on the left takes you to my website.
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The bottom right, you'll see my phone number, 303-362-8733. It's easy to remember.
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303 Focused.
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Let's get focused on getting that H.
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Out of wine, and putting it where it needs to be.
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Email me, mark at MarkEntrakin.com.
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Love to hear from you. Emails are great, I check it every day.
00:45:05.000 --> 00:45:08.000
Should we give him a QR code, phone number, email?
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They're all right here on the screen.
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And I would be honored to continue this conversation with you.
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And supports your next step.
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Help walk alongside you.
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Through coaching, leadership development, and personal growth.
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Because achieving unity…
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is not just something we talk about.
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It is something we live.
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One conversation,
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One life and one reality at a time.
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So remember…
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Get the H out of wine.
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Now, if you're gonna have H in there, make sure it's hearing.
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Make sure it's that listening to others.
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Let's build. Let's grow.
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Let's do everything we can.
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And smile. Think.
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Better communication.
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Better collaboration, stronger teams,
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The less frustrations and clearer understanding.
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I hope to hear from you soon. Thank you all.
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Cheers.
